Well....my Grandma read my journal without my permission (even though she said it was on mistake && she was trying to get some paper). And it had a lot of personal stuff in it as many journals do. The stuff she read was about sexual intercourse that I have had and like stuff about how much I hate my dad and everybody else.
Now what should I do? I mean I am not embaressed or anything because I mean its my life. And it wasnt their place to be reading my things.
2006-08-24 14:52:57 · 20 answers · asked by imUnCENSORED 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would tell your grandmother that you are sorry that she read your personal journal, but that you aren't sorry about anything that is in it. I would then write about how much of a busy body she is, and see how long it takes for her to get after you about it. I would also get an online journal that NO ONE knows about. (I have one, and I am an adult!) Don't tell your friends, your parents, girlfriend, NO ONE. In fact, delete cookies after every entery. Don't put your name on it and don't put your friends names on it. (Initials are enough for you to know who you are talking about!) The web is HUGE, and it is unlikely that anyone you know will know it is you even if they do find it.
2006-08-24 15:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this is the way you really feel, don't do anything. If she asks you something about your diary concerning what she read on it, depending on your age, if you are a grown up woman tell her it is personal and you would appreciate if she does not do it again, and if she wants to tell everybody that is her business and you really don't care.
However.....if you are a minor.....that's a different story. It depends on what kind of relationship you have with her, and how you perceive she is going to use that information.
If you think she can understand your circumstances, talk to her about, and explain what happened and why you feel that way about your father, if you don't get along with her there is nothing you can do, but wait and see what happens.
One way or the other, if you are a minor I am telling you "please" don't engage in sex just "because", you are exposing yourself to some many things, physically and emotionally.
Even if you use "precautions" rubbers won't prevent you from getting STD (sexual transmitted deceases) or getting pregnant,
Please, get some information at you health department, on the Internet where ever you can and learn about the consequences about having sex so early.
About your dad, you are the only one who knows why you hate him, I would like to help you more if you want me to.
God bless you child.
By the way, I am an older woman with children of my own and we talked about old this when they were very young, I was single, since they father died.
2006-08-24 22:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lorena B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess you sit and wait to see what she says about it..That is natural stuff to put in your journals but you should keep it where no one can find it.. little late for that information isn't it..
If you are a minor you are liable to be in a little bit of trouble with your grandmother..
I always told my daughters never ever write anything down that you don't want someone else to know. because someone is bound to someday find it and read it..
As for hating your father is it her son.. that might just upset her more than the sex part..
If you have to write a journal find a place in your room that no one can find it.. keep a book out on you desk or what ever you have in case someone needs some paper with out asking because they will most likely be tryiing to read what you write from now on..
I had my journals to but i wrote things down so that they would not understand what it was saying if they happen to find it and read it..figure out a code for your writting it will be your own kind of short hand. that only you understand.. not even your girl friends will understand it.
Iguess if she brings it up you will just have to explain yourself here.
good luck and put your journal away from now on. oh and make sure you are having safe sex if you have to do this before you are of age.
2006-08-24 22:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asks you tell her the truth. You know when just starting to read my journal that it wasn't for your eyes, you should have put it back where you got it and not read it. It's not my fault that this is how I feel and you may not approve. I didn't go telling anyone this that's why its in a journal of personal very personal thoughts and feelings that I have.
2006-08-24 22:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Grandma was very wrong by invading your privacy. If you have a good relationship with her, talk calmly to her and ask her advice on how you can have a better relationship with your Dad and the other people you dislike. Make her feel like you are her friend and ask her to keep this secret between the two of you. Remember honey works better then vinegar....work this mess to your advantage *wink*.
2006-08-24 21:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lil_Red_Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandmothers are great because you can tell them anything and they won't tell other people. But if it's something that's endangering you your Grandma is going to do what's right, and tell your parents.
Of course it depends on how old you are. If your under 17 I think your Grandma will tell your parents, but if your over 16 I think she will let it go.
Good luck, and if your parents find out, then don't get mad. Take deep breaths.
- Hope this helps
- Alexandra
2006-08-24 21:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should do depends entirely on what kind of person your Grandma is. Remember, she was your age once, so she might just keep it a secret to herself.
On the other hand, she may have turned into a blabbermouth. I don't know the lady but you do. Good luck with whatever happens. ^_^
2006-08-24 22:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Doctor Hand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't be mad at her. Just talk to her and ask her not to tell anyone. Besides, it is your life and you can do with it want you want. (The only thing is if your like 12 and had sex, then that might be a problem, but if your like 17 or 18 or so, I think it would be OK.
2006-08-24 21:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just brace yourself up for whatever happens. It will pass in time. Your family will always love you!
I would start keeping an online journal. Set it to private so no one can see it.
2006-08-24 21:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Yay for Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should read your personal thoughts and ideas. That said, if you have real issues with your dad, and he feels like he needs to address them, then you should let him. If he isn't in the picture, then you are entitled to however you feel without worrying what anyone thinks about it.
2006-08-24 21:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋