My husband is 26 and often will loose his temper over the smallest things, he has thrown things across the room, thrown things at me, punched the steering wheel in his truck, yells, rammed his chair into his desk,and has begun cursing at me. And he is so fast to act like this, and blows thigs to the extreeme when I try to talk to him. Are these traits of bipolar, or is he just really immature and acting out to get his own way? He says he only acts this way with me and no one else, he is the only son of four younger sisters.
2006-08-24 14:24:21 · 30 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF HE ONLY ACTS THAT WAY WHITH YOU HES IMMATURE
2006-08-24 14:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by letta g 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he has some serious anger management issues. Problem is, he is wanting someone or something to blame other than himself and his inability to cope. If this continues, he may become more abusive with you. The time to put your foot down is NOW. Tell him he is not to touch you in anger anymore, and he is to go and get counseling or you are out of there. Then stick to your guns. It will only get worse as time progresses if you continue to allow this behavior from him. If you are afraid to give him the lowdown, that should give you an obvious clue that it may be too far advanced without you leaving. Only you know for sure how bad it is. It is definitely a control issue, with you being on the receiving end of it.
Good luck
2006-08-24 15:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends he might have a thyroid problem which requires lots of tests to say for sure, he could be immature or he really could be bipolar, my ex-husband had the same problem which is what ultimently caused the divorce for example : one day he got upset for no reason and he threw my son's high chair , stroller and kicked his walker all the way across the room ,we had people over and my son was also in the same room, that day i made up my mind i couldn't deal with that, and then we seperated after that , so do what u think is best.. maybe even anger managment wouldn't be a bad idea or counciling for that matter good luck
2006-08-24 14:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that he is at the point where he is confident acting like this with you probably because he knows there will be no comeback or maybe because he has learned that it will get him his own way. I would suggest that the first thing he needs - with you included-would be some counselling. I don't buy the bi-polar idea because they tend to be like that with everyone and not just one person or two.
2006-08-24 14:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him get by with that. Don't live in fear sounds like he has no control over his actions. Next time he throws something across the room pick it up and throw it back across the room.
Tell him life is to short to be treated this way to grow up or get out.
Good luck hope it gets better!!
2006-08-24 15:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is like baby - if something is not his way -he is getting Koo-Koo.
Showing this kind of behavior doesn't have any common sens -
it could make every one sick.
Real man can handle any emotion and act promotly in the situation.
Temper can have 6 years boy bat not 26 years man.
2006-08-24 14:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something is wrong to me. He's blowing off of the handle and blaming you for everything wrong in his life! He's violent. Something isn't right with the guy. I would try to get him some help and counseling. Medication can do wonders.
2006-08-24 14:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe bipolar is extreme highs and lows....I think he needs some anger management!! Let him know that this is really bothering you and maybe he'll loosen up!! Be patient, maybe get counselling or buy a good behavioural book you can read to him. Good luck.
2006-08-24 16:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Carlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey he is a little of both,I live with one just like him,you learn to ignore the temper,after about 15years they start slowing down,they don't throw the temper the way they use too but you will be treated that way as long as your together,they say its the one they love they take it out on,I just say that my husband is really crazy forget the bipolar.lol you may want to wonder if you want to live in that the rest of your life,I love my husband but boy I may have made a different decision if I knew I was going to live with a crazy man.It really gets old.
2006-08-24 14:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by cherry c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. I'm sending you a link... but if he only acts like this with you, maybe you should sit down and rethink some things.
Oh, just a question for thought: Does he take steroids? Men taking steroids have been known to have these type of symptoms.
*edit* you know what... I think you should leave... no one has the right to endanger your life.
2006-08-24 14:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch out the relationship is in danger if he is picking on you and no one else. Think what pleases him and when he is happy and when he knows you are working hard on the marriage, he will wake up. If he doesn't and still behaves like a spoilt brat, let go.
2006-08-24 14:43:54 · answer #11 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋