The person you love most is addicted to drugs, and doesn't want to get help. Leave, or love on?

Answer 1

Drug addicts are people who get focused on one behavior to the exclusion of anything else -including their relationships.At the same time they demand your unconditional and absolute devotion.You get the impression that if you do everything right ,you might be loved back.
You won't be loved no matter how much you love.The love here ,goes to the drugs.
Leave

Answer 2

I have a sister in law who is in the same situation. My brother is a drug user and has been for many years now. He had a great job and was making really good money for about 6 years. He was what i call a "functional drug addict" because he managed to get up and go to work everyday and never let his drug use interfere with that, he was also "supporting his own habbit". He was helping with paying the bills and gave my sister in law money for whatever her or the kids needed. She was fine with his drug use as long as he took care of his responsibilities. Then all of a sudden one day his employer sent him to take a random drug test, of course he tested positive and got fired on the spot. He has been struggling ever since, he's lost everything he had materialistic, but she stayed with him and tried to love him through it all. He almost caused her to lose her job, he was taking all her money, wrecking her car, stealing and selling her things and just making life hell for her. She threatned to leave him several times but she's still with him 4 years later and things aren't getting any better. So I say that you should leave before his/her drug use starts ruining your life too. because it will happen somewhere down the line if you stay and let it.

Answer 3

An addict can love you till their dying day but still be an active addict - you need to love yourself more than you are in love with this person and get out while you can. They are not capable of loving you freely and fully, and you can stick around and wait for them to hit their bottom and face their struggle to come out the otherside. Honestly though, quite often when a serious addict gets sober they leave behind the people they knew and loved while they were using. Some relationships with addicts are dysfunctional until they get sober and then they no longer exist at all. You can't do it for them, so do what you can for you.

Answer 4

You can try and help or seek help for the person but they must honestly accept and want the help. There is no use in trying to play the saviour with your partner and like all other drug addicts they will lie, cheat, con, manipulate to get their own way. So until this person believes that they have hit their rock bottom they will continue to use. The choice is yours and I realize that it is not an easy one to make. However; you must realize also that your happiness comes into play here also. Best of luck to both you and your partner.

Answer 5

Well to be honest I used to be in a relationship where my ex-fiancee was on drugs for years without me knowing until we had out first daughter together, mybe it would not affect me more if i found out but i would've help him. Anyway the best thing to do is still by them as much as possible because in the end you will make that difference in there life, and if it does not work out during the buddy system them i'm sorry to tell you but it's time to let go and start new.... remain friends cause that is also important..... I am still friends with my ex-fiancee and now he is a drug couselor for teenage kids...... It paid off at the end ( GOOD LUCK)

Answer 6

If she can't see that the one that she love is trying to protect her and it will help you two out then she doesn't love you. True love is putting the person you love before everything even your own life. So the best for your sake is too leave sorry to say but it's true. You can still be a friend but keep trying to make her get help. Tell her that you are trying to help her even if she doesn't think so. HINT HINT: be emotional! tell her it's ruining your relation ship. And you love her. Hope she listens. Good luck.

Answer 7

It's called tough love, but you have to leave because this person must hit bottom and realize themselves that they want to change. It is difficult and this person has an addictive personality so needs to be careful to not move from one to another. No matter how much you love, you have to love enough to save yourself.

Answer 8

Can't tell you which to choose to do. Here's a web site that might help: http://rational.org/index.html
Scroll down the page and read what is under the red lettered heading on the right hand side.
Also, get yourself to Al Anon meetings for a clearer understanding of the problem and your role in it. You can't do anything at all to change their behavior but you may be doing things that let them continue on the destructive (not to mention expensive) path.

Answer 9

An addict will never love you as much as his drug of choice and will take as many people down with him/her as he can. It's a fact especially if they're not in a treatment program. Leave and tell them why for your own sake.

Answer 10

I've been through this before. I tried and tried to help him, then I just gave up. I didn't want to be drug down in the middle of that. If you think about it, you don't want to either. They lie, and eventually, they'll get so bad that they'll steal for the money to get there fix. It's a world full of sadness and stress. If you really love this person, you should try to get them to go get help. But know that they have to want to help themselves before anyone else can help them. My ex wasn't willing to help himself. I left him. A few years later I was engaged and was pregnant. He'd come around or call to see hoiw I was. He loved me, but I couldn't do it anymore. I wanted more out of my life. Sadly, he died of an overdose. It's a hard things to go through. You have to ask yourself what do you want out of life? How high do you want to climb? If you want to go far, I said the best thing to do is leave, that's if that person isn't willing to get help. Sometimes it's best to do what's best for you. Think about you and your goals. Good Luck!