So there is this boy that I have known since 2nd grade(4 years).We go to the same church.I hated him until 5thgrade.Then we where on again off again friends.I think I like him now.I think about him a lot.What should I do?I know he doesnt like me.And if I do ask him out and he says no,the whole school will know about it.I need someREALLY GOOD advice.
2006-08-24 14:12:49 · 29 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ask him subtle questions about what kind of girls he likes. pay attention to his reactions to you when you talk to him to judge what hes thinking. (soon you will get good at that) start to be nicer and flirt a little to remove any hostility. dont ask him out right away because that will start a relationship based on a possibly one sided crush, and years of fighting. you will be able to tell when he likes you if he dosnt already. i hope i helped at all.
2006-08-24 14:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you and he will change your minds a hundred times. So see if you can just be friends and talk Boys at 13 feel more uncomfortable around girls than girls would ever feel around boys.
Talk to lot of boys an get know what you like and don't like
But if I was 13 again I would ask my friends for help and see if we all could go places together and let him check me out again
2006-08-24 21:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rose! Everybody of every age has to grapple with the uncertainty of telling somebody that they like him/her. But what strikes me about your situation is that you say that you know this dude doesn't like you. If you are really, truly sure that he doesn't like you I would have to say let him go. BUT if he likes you as a friend, keep that relationship going. Boys mature slower than girls (if at all). He may begin to see you in a different light. As for everybody in school finding out, yes it could be embarrassing. And if you knew that this guy might like you, I'd say screw what everybody else thinks and let him know how you feel. But since you seem to be sure he doesn't have feelings for you, I say hold off until he and your peers mature a bit more. By that time, you may even have found somebody else.
2006-08-24 21:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by atomicfrog81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, but you have feelings, like an adult. You can't make or force someone to like or love you.
You can be attractive and interesting, and some nice young guy will notice, it will be someone different probably, but talk to him and give him a chance, and the other guy may come around, you can chat with him now and then, but chase no one, it just drives people away. Just try to make a lot of friends, that is the best strategy right now, I did it, and girl's invited me to parties, and we had fun, that is what it is about!
2006-08-24 21:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.
If you know that in the past it hasn't worked out between you guys and you still know that he feels the same way about you ( that he doesn't feel for you that way) then there's no use in trying!
Don't get your hopes with him, because in reality it will not work out.
It's too bad to say, but it won't work out!
Move on with your life girl! There's many other fishes in the sea, trust me.
Now that's something I would like to hear if I was in the same situation!
Don't waste your time on something that won't ever happen : )
2006-08-24 21:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rose! Slow down baby....First things first. You have known this fellow for 4 years and you should know him better than anyone. You have to trust your feelings and tell this boy how you feel, after that the rest is up to him..Go for it honey!
Good Luck
Jb
2006-08-24 21:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really good advice...okay, well how bout you just don't tell him anything. Just stay friends with him, and maybe do a little flirting. See what his reaction is, and if he flirts back then you can go a head an tell him. If not then leave it alone. But don't pursue guys that don't dig you back, it's really pathetic, especially at your age. I'm in my twenties, you have PLENTY of time to pursue men.
2006-08-24 21:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like what I went through. There was this guy I hated.. I mean he was sooo annoying to me this was about 7 years ago.. He is now my boyfriend and we have been together for 2 years.. it's amazing on how life is and how feelings can change.
2006-08-24 21:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok see first how do u know he doesnt like you?
Sometimes boys can be boys so they lie....
so just ask him if he says no and someone says something be like well atleast i have the nerves to ask or just say so we'd be better as friends...
If u think ya would be better as friends just be friends...
this lol has happened to me 2wice!
good luck
2006-08-24 21:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely[lauren] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young for a boy friend or for going out. Concentrate on getting good grades and being friends with everyone.
2006-08-24 21:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋