Recently my fiancees best friend tried to makeout w me when my fiancee was asleep in the same room basically and i told him no that hes his best friend and all he said was so...the next day i told my fiancee and his friend called later on that day...and my fiancee told him that he never wants to speak to him again...and find out today my fiancee is running him to a friends house about an hour away and i couldnt go....And im really uncomfortable around his friend now and i really dont want to be near him but i want to be with my fiancee rite now bc his friend tends to get him into a lot of trouble....
Will he really stay mad at his friend (who hes known forever) for trying to do that or just let it ago and hope it doesnt happen again? bc it really hurt me what his friend tried to do....
2006-08-24 13:53:32 · 10 answers · asked by missdynamite_518 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are a loyal one, I'll tell you that. It is good to see person of integrity, because many males and females alike disgust me nowadays.
Tell your fiancee this: that you love him, and you want the best for him. Tell him that if his "friend" was truly a friend, that he would have as much influence over his friend, as his friend has influence over your fiancee. What I mean is, your fiancee should have the power to use the good out of him and help his friend out, while his friend does his best to use the good in him to help your fiancee out.
In your position, it is hurtful. Because you want to understand what's going on, why his friend did that, and why your fiancee is going about on his business again. Questions are unavoidable, but answers are not always present.
I say you take this case on slowly and investigate what the true source of trouble is. And wherever that takes you, make sure you are prepared for the worst, and that your decisions have no regrets. Your first goal should be convincing your fiancee to convince his friends and others to NOT do that to you...or else, they aren't really his friends, knowing they are harming something of value to him: You.
Good luck friend, and I hope the best results come your way and your fiancee's.
2006-08-24 14:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned for a couple of reasons. Your finance lied to you. BIG deal-breaker without a doubt. HUGE!! Second, generally, guys are friends with guys who have about the same outlook on life. It's not much of a stretch to think your guy would do the same thing his friend did. You've been disrespected and discounted. How does that feel? Not good and it won't go away or not happen again. My wife has a saying: "When confused, suspect a lie." You've got more than a suspicion.
2006-08-24 21:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and tell him how you feel. But as far as not being able to go with him to drop this friend off is the best thing and it protects you from being put in a position for him to try to kiss you again.
2006-08-24 20:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys will be mad for a couple days and then just blow it off like it never happened. In a friendship like theirs, I think that he's probally taking him to the friend's house so he can talk with him about what happened and that's why you couldn't go.
2006-08-24 20:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's deep.I would just let him know (your boyfriend) how you feel and that you don't want to be around him (his friend).I mean you really can't stop him from being around his friend and if he wants to forgive him and keep dealing with him.But he could not come to my home or be around me at all.And be very careful because truthfully i think he is jealous of you and your boy friend's relationship and that's why he came at you like that.And i would tell my boy friend to watch him because he is jealous of him and really doesn't have his back.
2006-08-24 21:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how funny... this sort of kind of happened to me...
your fiance will stay mad and drama will linger for a bit but
the bottom line is ... your man is going to get the friend to apologize and your gonna have to forgive the friend
at first your gonna hate it and its gonna bug you ... but guys have a rule... " bros before hos"
and by the way ... to feel better... do something secretive on the side... something only you know... like ... pocket some of his money and go shopping... DO something so you "have one up on him" but its your secret... Us girls have rules too...
2006-08-24 21:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These guys both need to grow up. You made the responsible decision. Now stay away from both of them.
2006-08-24 20:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by upallnight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy your bf did SOMETHING to try to fix the situation. Leave it to him. He seems like a "take charge" kind of guy and that's really a good attribute.
2006-08-24 20:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancees best friend is a jerk. Give me his address and i fix him for you. that lousy no good skanky jerk of a useless piece of amoeba.
2006-08-24 20:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Totoru 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he shouldent forgive him cuz he should know that u guys are gettin married he should respect u and ur fiancee..
2006-08-24 20:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by pixiejvgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋