Me and my GF broke up about a week ago, and it was becasue she needed a break, becasue of school and other issues. Now we are Best-Friends, with benefits. She also kissed abnother guy before she broke up with me, she said it was an accedent, but there also really good friends. She says that I was the greatest thing that ever happened to her, and she just said that our relationship was to good to be true. She wants to get back together with me, but I don't know when, she will ask me out eventually. But this other guy lives an hour away, and she is going over there in a week to see what would happen, I know that they are going to kiss, but I don't know how far they are going to go, I never liked this guy. She knows all of this, but I am really hurting, She says that she hates titles ex: "BF- GF", but this is really hurting me, its nice talking more as just friends and doing other rhings, but what can I do to persuade her to go out with me again earlier, and how about this other guy?
2006-08-24 13:29:09 · 29 answers · asked by AD2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She never wants to date the other guy cause hes to far away but she says she needs some time off to chill.
2006-08-24 13:37:59 · update #1
Get rid of this crazy chick. She can't play with you like this. Suck it up man and find another girl, then parade the new one in front of your ex, while at the same time giving the new girlfriend a great big french kiss.
Good Luck Dude!
Jb
2006-08-24 13:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: You're screwed... And I don't mean that in a good way... She wants to see if she could have something better with the other guy, and you are "Plan B" in case it doesn't work... If you were her first choice, she wouldn't be pulling this bull****... Don't be a doormat, and make it clear that you won't be walked on... You are a person with feelings, not a pair of pants to be tried on and returned to the rack in favor of something better... Tell her she has a chance with you now, and if she goes with him, she loses that chance forever... I mean think about it... If she goes and comes back, you'll always suspect the worst, even if nothing happens... But we both know that it will... And besides, would you want to go through life knowing that you were her second choice??? If she insists on going through with her meeting with him, then you should make it clear that this is the end of the relationship, and cut your ties with her...
2006-08-24 13:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off,im sorry to hear about your girl. She sounds like she needs space. Shes not treating you the way you deserve by going out with all these other guys just to "see what will happen" but technically,she did break up with you so stop worring about what shes doing with other people now. At least you're not the unlucky guy being cheated on by her! Ask yourself what you're really looking for in a girl. Also if she really cared for you, she wouldnt be doing this. Talk to her face to face to see what she really wants, if its not to be faithful, shes not worth your time. good luck
2006-08-24 13:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by runner_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is being a hoe, you should ask me out instead. lol j/k I think the best thing you could do is show her all the things that made her fall for you in the first place. It may help then ask her out. if she still wants to see the other guy and you at the same time (still friends with benifits) move on she's not worth it, your not getting what you need out of this realtionship.
I hope you the very best!
2006-08-24 13:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by atm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you that if she really cared about you and wanted to be with you, she wouldn't even be going over to see htis other guy. At least that's how I see it. BUT, at least she's honest with you about it all. She isn't lying to you. As far as the other guy, there isn't anything you can do. But her, well, from the sounds of it you've already decided you still want her. But what I would personally do is tell her she's hurting you and tell her you're still willing, that you still want to be with her, but leave it at that. Don't be too needy. You might also just decide to cut off the friendship part, since you don't want it anyway. Don't be obvious about it, you don't have to rub her face in it as that's a put off, just stop accepting it.
2006-08-24 13:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even tho you're hurting...try to get out and have fun with other people (guys & girls). If she becomes upset, remind her that she broke up and has been playing games with this other guy. I'm sure then she will appreciate the GF / BF titles and will want you back. If not, then move on becuase she is unsettled and not into commitments
2006-08-24 13:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby don't wast any more time on this female. She is purely full of sh it. Shes trying to put you in the layaway.People that don't like titles like BF & GF are just afried of comment.And they always think they can do better.Just think about it like this if she so called needed time away from a relationship why is she talking to another guy.And you don't accedently kiss any body so don't go for that.Just leave her alone and let her go on about her busness.
2006-08-24 13:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold you breath sounds like she is playing you for a fool ! She is with the other guy because that's her choice ? Not because you made her do it ! get off the merry go round and get away from her she is only keeping you around just in case things don't work with Joe blow , then she thinks you will wait and be there for her when all hell breaks lose she will play you both !!! get as far away from this as possible. save your self for someone who deserves you and what you have to share .
2006-08-24 13:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth, and I am sorry to say this, but somethimes the truth hurts, if she cheats once she will cheat again, same things with guys. If she says you were the best thing that every happened to her, and she wants to be with you again, then she wouldn't go to this guys house, to "see what happens" If she really cared, she woudlnt'. She needs to get over her issues, so that you can move on, or one day, be together, once everything is sorted out, and all dandy with her life. cause right now she is confused, about sex, and everything. If you really think about it. She is testing her ability.
2006-08-24 13:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you she doesn't like titles like girlfriend-boyfriend, that's her excuse so that she can do what she wants and not feel guilty. She just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If she's goin over there next week to see what will happen, it probably won't stop at kissing. And if she told you they "just kissed", it's a 50% chance it went further than that and she just wanted to see your reaction about her kissing someone else before she decided to tell you everything.
2006-08-24 13:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋