Does anyone think there is something wrong with me if I don't want to have kids yet?

Question

I am 26 years old and my wife is 22,she thinks it's a litte wierd that I don't want have kids,am I wierd?

Answer 1

I'm glad you included the word, "yet". Married people who never want to have kids are usually immature and selfish. If that's what you are, then it is best that you don't have kids. Kids make you grow up and give and give and give. A lot of men change their minds once that little life is placed in their hands. Raising kids requires a lot of sacrifice, and I'd say you're not willing to give up that much of yourself yet. Is that weird? No. Perhaps, its' honest.

Answer 2

no you not wierd . you will have kids in time you are only 26 and she is 22. but thank about having kids be four you get 30..

Answer 3

No. We married at 22 but had our first at 33. That 10 years was a lot of fun. I found , much later, that I wish I'd had more and started a little earlier. 22 is a little soon for the biological clock to be ticking.

Answer 4

I think it is very smart to wait til you are both psychologically and financially ready to start having kids, just explain to her that you need to be stable first and in the meantime you two can spent some quality time together doing things as a couple.Trust me it takes WAAAYYY longer to get ready to go somewhere when you finally do have a child. Granted they are worth it;just saying enjoy each other as much as you can before you add a little one.

Answer 5

No, but mull this over, it you wait until you are forty, your kids won't be grown until your 60, and they won't graduate from colllege until you are almost 70, when do you plan to retire?

Your still young, and most men do not mature until they are closer to forty (they want to act like children and have a lot of "me" time) with children that man would be forced to grow-up, a little anyway.

Tell the truth, you like the freedom to much to be immature as you please without the consequence of disturbing another person emotionally.

Maybe the reason she keeps asking or saying that you are weird is because she is pregnant?!?

Answer 6

no it's not weird it's normal u probly like the freedom of doing what u want when u want to do it , w/children it's very difficult to do that i know i have 2 children our great when ur ready for them and if she still has a prob w/ it tell her that u want to wait until u guys are more stable kids cost alot of money per month so just take your time and hope fully she will understand

Answer 7

Nope.

You don't want kids YET or EVER??

Either one is fine as a personal choice - some people just don't want kids ever.

Did you discuss this before you got married? I would suggest that you both sit down and try to work it out.

Answer 8

Not a thing wrong with you and your opinion.Think off the days we are living in.It's truly a dangerous time with the threat of terror attacks,the schools our kids must attend,guns,peer-pressure,drugs,
alcohol,someone trying steal your child(which almost happened to me and my child once).It's hard enough worring about them when they are grown.My eldest daughter was almost raped.My younger daughter (who's very bold,has no fear,just gets extremely angry) has beaten guys up if they try to get too close or abuse her.Think about of this,and things are not getting any better.Very Sincerely,A Mom who Knows

Answer 9

No you are not weird. You should not have kids until you are ready. You are doing yourself, your wife, and your future children a favor by waiting until you are ready.

Answer 10

You 2 are just kids yourselves