My G/F and I have been going out now for 6 weeks and everything is really great. No sex involved yet or anything like that. The only big problem in our relationship is me not giving her the amount of trust she deserves/wants. My question is, I want to tell her that I will do my best to give her my full trust. I wont bring up the topics of jealousy, not believing her, and not trusting her anymore. She also tells me I can and that she wants to love me but I keep pushing her away because of the lack of trust I have for her. Is there a way I can more than just tell her that I am serious about giving her all my trust, no doubts what so ever. I want her to fully believe me when I say it this time. Any advice would be appreciated. :)
Oh one last thing, she has told me many times she hasnt done absolutely anything behind my back or has never lied to me about anything.
2006-08-24 13:21:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im 23 and she's 21. Both born in March.
2006-08-24 13:29:09 · update #1
tell her that you really do trust her, and you're sorry you haven't been lately. a woman will always respect a man that will ask forgiveness. (always!)
try to act on your trust for her- remember, "actions speak way louder than words." if she tells you something, don't argue with her- believe her, and act accordingly to what she's said- then she'll know you trust her.
tell her you really do know that she's never lied/ cheated/ whatever, and you're sorry for being too hard on her. a girl will also appreciate you admitting you're in the wrong.
ask her to tell you if she EVER feels like you don't trust her... 'cause you really do want to do your best.
hope it helps....
........ good luck
- Silence Dogood
2006-08-24 13:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Silence Dogood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just sit her down and have a real heart to heart. Then follow it up by actions just like your trying to let her know that you trust her she has to trust you and believe that you are going to put your best foot forward in trying to be more trusting.And all though you might have some set backs just keep on keeping on.No one is perfect and alot of people have trust issues.Just know when you master this it will make you a good boy friend and a wonderful husband.
2006-08-24 20:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something that has gone on or is going on that makes you feel insecure. You need to resolve that on your own. You can't fake trust. Maybe you're not ready to be in a relationship. Tell her you will try your best and that's all you can offer right now. No guarantees.
2006-08-24 20:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT SHE IS TRYING TO SAY IS THAT SHE WANTS EMOTIONAL INTIMACY. THAT MEANS YOU OPEN YOURSELF UP TO HER, TRUST HER WITH YOUR SECRET DOUBTS, FEARS, DESIRES, INSECURITIES, AND WISHES, AND YOU TRUST THAT SHE WON'T SQUASH YOU OR TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU IN ANY WAY.
LOTS OF PEOPLE ARE AFRAID OF TRUE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY. WHY DO YOU THINK THERE ARE SO MANY DIVORCES?
DON'T BE AFRAID TO TAKE A CHANCE. IF HER BEHAVIOR MATCHES HOW SHE SAYS SHE FEELS ABOUT YOU, THEN SHE IS PROBABLY TRUSTWORTHY. PEOPLES' BEHAVIOR IS TRANSPARENT IF YOU ARE PAYING ATTENTION.
DOES SHE TRUST YOU? RESPECT YOU? ACCEPT YOU AS YOU ARE? IS SHE ABLE TO SEE THINGS FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE? DOES SHE APPRECIATE YOUR PERCEPTIONS? DOES SHE REACT QUICKLY TO THINGS YOU SAY, AND ASSUME WHAT YOUR INTENT WAS? OR DOES SHE STOP HERSELF FROM REACTING AND GIVE YOU A CHANCE TO EXPLAIN YOUR INTENT? IF SHE DOES, SHE IS A KEEPER.
YOU MUST HAVE SOME BAGGAGE FROM YOUR PAST THAT IS CONTAMINATING THIS RELATIONSHIP. DROP IT OFF SOMEWHERE. MAYBE YOU HAVE BEEN HURT BEFORE. WE ALL HAVE. WE WOULD BE IGNORANT TO HOLD OTHERS RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR HURT FEELINGS FROM OUR PAST. BESIDES, THEY BUILD OUR CHARACTER AND WISDOM.
DOES SHE MAKE YOU FEEL IMPORTANT? WORTHY? DESIRED? SPECIAL? SAUGHT AFTER? IF SHE DOES, THEN SHE'S A KEEPER.
WITHHOLDING INTIMACY FROM HER SENDS HER A NEGATIVE MESSAGE. ASK HER WHAT HER PERCEPTION IS, THEN ACCEPT IT, AND STRAIGHTEN HER OUT WITH HWAT YOUR TRUE INTENT WAS. KEEP HOLDING BACK AND SHE WILL LEAVE YOU.
DON'T CAUSE HER TO WORRY, WONDER, DOUBT, OR QUESTION YOUR FEELINGS FOR HER. TAKE CARE OF HER EMOTIONAL NEEDS.
TREAT HER SO WELL THAT SHE WILL WANT TO CALL ALL HER FRIENDS AND BRAG ABOUT YOU TO THEM......
2006-08-24 20:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to show her, prove her, and tell her every minute, everyday.. (well that's a little bit exaggerated) what i mean is show, prove, tell her in every chance you can have that you really trust her.. and sometimes the problem is not with the other person but it is with you there are some underlying issues within yourself that needs to be solved so that you'll be able to trust someone..
2006-08-24 20:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by keiCh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE LOVES U THEN SHE SHOULD BELIEF U WHEN U SAY THAT U BELIEF HER. DON'T LET THAT BE THE REASON THAT THE TWO OF U SEPERATE. IF U LOVE HER THEN MAKE SURE THAT U SHOW HER THAT.
GOOD LUCK
KHRYSTYNE AKA KOOKIE
2006-08-24 20:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are the two of you??
2006-08-24 20:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Firemans_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try ur best
2006-08-24 20:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋