okay- my friend had a crush on this guy. so they became boyfriend and girlfriend. so he started asking her for sex. she was a virgin so she said no and he dumped her after a week. but she still liked him. and just like he said she had sex with him( he still didnt go back with her.) so about 8 months later she texted him and asked him to be her cut buddy( for yall that dont know, a cut buddy is a person you sleep w/ regulary but have no attachment). so he asked her to go with him that same day. she said yes 'of course'. then 2 dayz after they got back together he told her cousin that he didnt like her and didnt want to be with her.he also said" i bet if you tell her she wont believe you". so her cousin told her and like a FOOL she didnt believe her and continued to be wit him. she wanted to go take pictures with him and he wouldnt even pay for them. all he wants is sex. everyone is trying to tell her but she wont listen .what should i do. please help? what do you think of think of this?
2006-08-24 13:20:33 · 20 answers · asked by kandy_kiss16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we're in high school
2006-08-24 13:20:58 · update #1
Hell yes, he is using her. Doesn't matter if you are in high school or not, that a** is only in it for the sex. She didn't believe her cousin?? That is so dumb. Tell your friend the truth and how YOU feel about it.
2006-08-24 13:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Short and sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ... What on earth was she thinking when she proposed to be cut buddies???!!
I mean, I know it's high school and everyone wants to experiment... but you can take that kind of decisions when you are older and have more experience.
If she was a virgin that was a huge step to take...
Instead of keep waiting for the right moment to have her first time, she just jumped into someone who didn't even show in the past that he could wait for her and respect her decision.
That's awful... but it's done! --You should tell her that.
The only good thing she could do is to open her eyes... Someone should frame that guy in order to get her know the truth...
It could sound like a stupid teen movie, but I think that's the best thing to do if she really is that blind.
She won't listen to her friends, even if she's not in love... just because she liked the sex, she would do anything to keep having it.
So, frame that boy, tell her that she has to pay attention to what her real friends have to say... and take her out to forget him and meet another guys. BUT!! not guys like him.
2006-08-24 13:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by MonyM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the type of scenario where it's just SO OBVIOUS he's using her that it's sad. It seems like she's blinded by love or something so the only way to get this resolved is by being sneaky.. Have the cousin talk to him on the phone about her but have the girl on another line listening (conference call) without him knowing. Have the cousin have him talk about how he feels (since he's already honest with her) and if that doesn't work, I don't know what will!
2006-08-24 13:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Desdemona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say stay out of it and let her be. She obviously wants to be stupid and ignorant. She probably thinks he loves her cause they are having sex all the time. She is the one that had a crush on him, and he is taking advantage, cause he knows she is stupid enough to fall for anything he says, and end up in his bed. He is loving making an a s s out of her while she believes his crap. It's not your business, so let her learn from this experience. When she comes to you for advise, give her your opinion or whatever. Life is about learning from your mistakes and that is what helps you grow as a person. Why be in such a rush to do adult things?!? You all need to mature. Good luck and take care!
2006-08-24 16:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES he is using her. Its quit sad that she fell for him in that way. she needs to be shown that what he is doing isn't good for her and that there are men out there that would probably want to date her and see her as a serious relationship. He is obviously not looking for a relationship and probably will shag anything with a hole in it.and there a lot of men out there like that especially the one under 21.She should have stuck to her morals but now it sounds like things are just going to get worse.please help her now the right from wrong if u do the right thing hopefully she will. shame can sometimes work to
2006-08-24 13:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by supersayanjim4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deary, you personally cannot do anything. She will need to find out for herself. One day she will come across something like him kissing another girl or hear he has had sex with another chick from a place where she least expects it. That will wake her up. If she won't listen to you, which is probably what she would do with anything else, then she will need to deal with this on her own. Just be there for her when it happens.
2006-08-24 13:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by missyb5884 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but your going to have to prove to her beyond a doubt that hes using her. Or else shes just going to wind up being hurt. Humm heres an idea....get a camcorder- or a voice recorder and talk to him over the phone or in person about having sex-(dont actually go through with it thou)and see if you can catch this snake in the grass so to say. Then bring her the evidence- if she dont beilve you then - shes a lost cause.
Or else you can have a serious one on one friend talk and tell her as a friend you care about her and you beilive hes using her. If she doesnt listen to you- her friend- then who else will she listen to? If theirs someone else go to them and get them to talk to her.
2006-08-24 13:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is using her. I think that your friend needs self esteem for one, two she needs to see through the liar, and three dump his *** now. He will only hurt her in the end and she won't rebound from that. I hope she learns the easy way not by getting hurt.
2006-08-24 13:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by britsmama93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trynna talk to your friend and if she wont listen (which i know she wont) just let her finds out on her own cause i gonna have to find someone he like then he gonna want to live so just let her know dat you'll be here for her no matter what when all thats done she gonna need someone to talk to
2006-08-24 13:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by kayla l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is using her, but she did set herself up by asking if he wanted to be her cut buddy. and since she wont listen she will probably end up learning the hard way which is really sad
2006-08-24 13:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by atm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋