My guy friend, who is gay, overheard me talking to one of my girl friends about me being invited to go somewhere with a girl we all work with..I explained to my friend about how I don't feel comfortable going, because I don't really know her and that she's bringing her boyfriend and some other friends and I would feel out numbered..anyway, he came out and told me not to go with her, she's bad news(and a few other choice words!!)..this completely shocked me because I didn't think he actually cared!! does this mean he considers us friends??
2006-08-24 13:13:55 · 21 answers · asked by confusedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am a straight girl all the way!!! And when I call him my guy "friend" I mean that he said we were friends, but I never was actually convinced that we were, cuz he doesn't really talk to me much, except in text messages!! just thought I would clear this up for some of you!!
2006-08-24 13:23:13 · update #1
He gave you his opinion, and it was in the best interest of you. He is being a friend. Allow him to voice how he feels and why; he may have some merit or may see something that you have overlooked.
I just think he wants the best for you, and doesn't want you to get hurt. Take it as he offered it - advice to a friend.
2006-08-24 13:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, I'm confused. Didn't you say you were friends at the start of your question?
Sweetie... what do you think. If you feel uncomfortable going out with this girl you work with... listen to your intuition... something isn't right and your gut is telling you so. As for your guy friend... maybe he got a strange reading from her too... or he may be being nice and simply playing on the fact that you feel uncomfortable about going out with her so you won't feel so bad about declinning.
Goodness... people read to much into things...
2006-08-24 20:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started the question out by saying,"My guy friend." so you already consider him your friend???? But by the end of your question it sounds like you two have no friendship connection but it does not mean this guy is not caring and wants to protect you from some one you should be leary of. Apparently, he has his reasons for wanting to sway you away from this person. All you have to do is ask him why he said this and then you can make your own decison as to go or not, plus while you are at it, ask him if he feels the two of you are friends. You will never know unless you ask.
2006-08-24 20:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by loving_yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first things first your opening stated "My guy friend" so I think sub consiously you already thing of him as a friend. And yeah I think that makes you friends (what you said in the question) is that difficult to accept becuase he's gay? or are you just confused? well good luck figuring that out
2006-08-24 20:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by atm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the beginning of the post you said "my guy friend" so yeah I would assume you were friends. Do you hang out with him outside of work? He might have been just trying to be nice.
2006-08-24 20:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your definition of a 'friend' may differ from mines so it's hard to answer this question. But you already called him your 'guy friend', so why did you even ask the question?
2006-08-24 20:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Desdemona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be giving you a good warning. He may want to be friends. Let this play out, you may have a good friend in this person.
2006-08-24 20:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by anvilsandinkstudios 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are slightly over-analyzing the situation. I mean, he could, but all he did was tell you what that girl's intentions were. But then again, at the beginning, you called him your friend. I am a little confused.................
2006-08-24 20:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Short and sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to like someone to be nice to them. He was just being honest and giving his opionon. Im sure he doesnt hate you, however cant promise he likes you as a friend either.
2006-08-24 20:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to watch out for your best interest. He could know something that you don't know. Friends watch out for each other.
2006-08-24 20:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋