My best friend neva had a g/f but Iv had loads(not being cocky). Do I rub it in???

Question

Im 15 and my bst friend is 17 but hes neva had a girlfriend, hes only eva kissed 1 girl and he dosnt go out alot!!!
Iv loads o girls as friends and go out all da time + iv kissed way more girls dan him!!!
--- When ever i tell him bout girls iv "ben" wit or wat happened at da discos I always feel like im rubbing it in his face like a basterd!!

--- How do I talk 2 him wit-out tinking/feelin like dis?????

He has friends, but in skool and at sports, dey dont call r txt him outside of dat. Hes dead sound jus cant go out if he's no 1 2 go out wit!!

I DONT WANT 2 RUB IT IN! ! ! !

Answer 1

(You probably wont like my answer but you could try something for a friend and not for you. If he lacks at something pointing it out wont help,it'll only make him resent you. Try reading it anyway, it might help even though I know most people don't like reading long answers! So sorry bout the long answer .)

I suppose you could be concerned for your friend but in actual fact I respect him much more than you from just this information you have provided! He's probably trying to save himself for someone special and trying to protect his heart, we all know our personal lengths and what we can and can't take when it comes to love.

Don't use yourself as an example! For starters he might see you and think he doesn't want to be like that with all the girls you've "ben" with. If he doesn't go out alot maybe he's not like that maybe he's the more "stay at home" type to "get over your studies and find a girl then" type?
He can do what he likes, if you are concerned...that's a different story! Tell him you're concerned! But if not then shut up because you're not helping him by doing that. Take him out places with you ( what's wrong with doing that!?) but don't leave him for another girl...I think I know what kind of friend you'd be like at a party...you'd be the one to leave him for a girl ( a personal opinion not saying it's true)..friend's don't do that!

I think your friend sounds like a nice guy..I'd date him, because he's the type of person who'll end up with a great job and the right type of girl on his arm. He seem to be a sensitive guy- girls like sensitive guys AND they like challenges! Why don't you show him this thread if you're embarrassed maybe just email him the responses and tell him what the question was( you might want to change it! And you might also want to get rid of some dead give-away answers!)...it might work wonders for his ego and he might get out there. I know it's decieving but with you a obvious "pro" with girls he'll need some more ego boosters, but I think I can say he might not get his heart broken so quickly because he'll know who he can and can't achieve & what he does and doesn't want to do!
If you don't think "Iv loads o girls as friends and go out all da time + iv kissed way more girls dan him!!!" isn't rubbing it in...where were you when they were handing out the sympathy? It sounds like you do!

He's probably at a stage where he needs to re-examin his life and find out who he is as a young adult, he probably doesn't know how to figure himself out. He sounds quite mature beyond his years as well... boys are usually behind girls so it'd be about right when he's examining who he is. I'm sure you could go out and do whatever he wants for the day (keep an eye on what he's goona at and remind him!)...you could go and find out more about him and getting him to open up might get him to get out more? Sensitivity is something else you need to learn but try to tread carefully, if he doesn't want to have loads of meaninigless flings/kisses with girls then don't make him! He'll do that in his own time. There are more important things in life, maybe he has deeper issues anyway.

Be kind and tread carefully, you need to be a better mate by doing more with him, taking him out more ( if it's because of studying don't distract him!). Hope you can this "skill" if your so good at getting girls you must have a charm about you that can win someone round...! However it might not be the WHOLE personality.

Peace.

Answer 2

Then dont make it out like u r rubbing it in. First ask him if he would like to know what u got up to, and if he says yes then tell him. If he says yes, but from the tone seems unsure and sorta sad then just find a way to make it seem less 'in his face'. Also if ur his friend maybe u should kinda give him a 'makeover'. Teach how to be more confident with girls. Maybe give him a new style. If all works out well u both will be able to share stories.

Answer 3

Hey da comment ahead of mine is rite he mite be da stay at home type of guy but shes a girl so she prob dosnt no dat a guy at 17, weather he's a stay at home guy r not, will want 2 have kissed more dan 1 girl and i dunno but would prob have wanted 2 have gone out with Someone even if only once!!!

Maybe, 'MAYBE' shes rite and he dosnt want 2 be kissin lodza girls but he deffo will want to be going out even if just at weekends;

Deres a gud enough age gap between ye so maybe he wouldnt want 2 hang around wit ur mates so maybe u should go somewhere wit him like a match r sum thing and sit with him but half way through met ur other friends and then say 2 him to join u and ur otherfriends r invite them 2 sit wit u and hell soon start talking **hopefully**.



The 1 above makes u sound like some type o pimp, listen hes 15, maybe ur older but today all da lads and girls are hangin out together and didnt he say dat da girls are his **FRIENDS**, he neva said hes kissed dem all!!!

But overall shes rite and i cant jus repeat her but; be careful do not offend him , ask him if it's bothering him, put it straight out dere; "Dose it bother u when i talk about girls like this, i don't want to be rude"

Best o luch, cud b tricky! ! !

Answer 4

Definitely do NOT rub it in. That's not the action of a friend.

Your friend may not appreciate you talking to him about girls. He may well consider it as though you are trying to rub it in.

He needs advice on how to boost his self-esteem. Make him feel good about himself. Look for things that he's good at, and praise him on them. When he feels good about himself, he'll make moves towards getting more girlfriends.

Answer 5

You ARE rubbing it in, or attempting todo so, by putting in this question
Maybe you're more easlily satisfied. Why not grow up, and take it as it comes, letting your friend do the same?

Answer 6

If you feel like your rubbing it in his face when you discus this with him then maybe you should talk about other things instead if you are truly a friend.

Answer 7

Ask him if he cares or if it bothers him. Try to find somebody that does like him encourage him to go out more. I think it will work so get out there and be spontanios. Or how ever you spell it.

Answer 8

With a friend like you why would I need enemies.

Answer 9

ask him if it's bothering him, go straight out and say, when i talk about girls like this does it bother you i don't want to be rude.

Answer 10

You are not his friend if you want to rub it in his face............................... Glad I don't have friends like you