I went to swim pool with my step daughters and one of them met her bf in there. Of course they were all much younger than me, anyway I like to keep myself fit, what my step daughter, despite being very sweet, does not! So her bf was staring at my body all the time and he started playing on throwing water on me at the pool. I have not told anything to anyone but I feel guilty. Should I have told anyone?
2006-08-24 13:07:55 · 20 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, looking at your body and appreciating its beauty is not a crime!
2006-08-25 04:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you enjoyed the attention from a young guy and it made you feel good that you thought he liked your body better then your step daughters'?
Hhhm....sounds like the prob isn't some kid throwing a bit of water on you. Most kids don't throw water on an older woman unless they think the woman is playing around with them..he prob didn't mean anything other then being funny. (And believe me, guys look at everyone girl....I wouldn't read too much in that.)
Why would you want to report something so innocent as this to your husband? Leave the kid alone and don't encourage anything next time you may see him.
2006-08-24 13:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by GoldnHart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not involve your husband he have more serious matters to focus on. I truly feel you're not getting the attention from your husband that why this is an option; I feel you desire your husband attention however most husbands lose physical attraction to concentrate more on their wives mental state.
I'm quit sure he appreciate you keeping yourself fit and I applaud you for it as well but if only your step daughter who you know you have an edge on friends are noticing than you need to consider less time with your step-daughter's company and consider a new playground.
2006-08-24 13:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by midavasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first person I feel should be told anything is the bf. He may not be aware that his actions are inappropriate. Also telling your husband may be premature. If he starts to think that because you are physically attractive to the younger sex, he may feel that your relationship with him could become jeopardized. Society recognizes older men with younger women but when a man sees that younger men are attracted to what he probably feels belongs to him, resentment could arise and create unnecessary issues. Try talking to the bf first and give him the oppurtunity to learn something. Your step daughter may thank you for it down the road. Jody
2006-08-24 13:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by jlsmith92104@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boys will look especially if you have a nice body. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You can talk to your husband about it if you want to. Your husband will understand what is going on in your step daughers BF mind. It is really no big deal, they are going to look.
2006-08-24 21:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the adult you set the limits. If he's staring at you, put on a cover-up. Don't play water games with him if you think there's more to it. If you didn't do anything you have nothing to feel guility about.
You're a grown woman, you should be able to handle unwanted male-attention without dragging your husband into it. It's not a big deal.
2006-08-24 13:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have spoken to him at the pool. I bet it felt good to have a young guy checking you out. Stop hating on your step daughter Instead of looking down your nose at her help her get fit. Why involve your husband? If it happens again put him in his place.
2006-08-24 13:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you have such a wonderful self image. At some point you will probably get over being jealous of your step daughter. If you really think he is so hot for you, you should ask him about it first. If it doesn't stop, tell your husband.
2006-08-24 13:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by rchbrk6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends did it make u feel bad? or are u feeling guilty becsuse u liked the attention? either way it's probly nothing but if u feel that strongly about talk to somone u trust, and see what happens from the there u may be over reacting maybe not just think about it and talk to somone
2006-08-24 13:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why he did nothing, but look at you. You said it yourself that you have a find body. But why do you feel guilty were you flirting with him unconsciously at the time and later finger-it out
2006-08-24 13:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but if he becomes more aggressive and you become uncomfortable I would take him aside and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't respect your wishes then you tell him that you will tell your husband and he may not be able to see your step daughter anymore.
2006-08-24 13:14:04 · answer #11 · answered by lexxy l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋