if you were in this situation would you continue your pregnancy???

Question

- 1 from the second that you found out you were prego, the father said he wants NOTHING to do with the baby
- 2 Has asked you to have an abortion
- 3 Told you that if you keep the baby he will not sign any birth papers
- 4 Told you that he will NOT move in to a place of your own with the child
- 5 has denied that the kid is his, even though he knows it is his

Answer 1

Honestly? Yes I would, because I dont need a man to support me or my child, I am not going to take my child's life away because some jerk wants me to, or wont be a part of the childs life, thats his loss.

I do understand you probobly love this guy and its hard to choose but you need to understand if he loved you as much back he would respect your choice to keep the baby if you wanted to and wouldn't be encouraging abortion. Good Luck hun!.

Answer 2

- 1 from the second that you found out you were prego, the father said he wants NOTHING to do with the baby So he doesn't have to have anything to do with the baby except pay child support.
- 2 Has asked you to have an abortion that is YOUR choice not his.
- 3 Told you that if you keep the baby he will not sign any birth papers, he doesn't HAVE to all you need is a DNA test and that can be COURT ordered if he doesn't comply he can go to jail.
- 4 Told you that he will NOT move in to a place of your own with the child
- 5 has denied that the kid is his, even though he knows it is his. That little DNA test will tell the truth whether he denies it or not.
YOU make YOUR choices for you and this pregnancy, if you keep it and decide to raise the child yourself make sure you get DNA testing and then file for child support from the father. If he doesn't pay the government will take it out of any paycheck he collects and will take it out of any tax return he makes out. Child support is NOT an option.

Answer 3

1 do you want to keep the baby? If you do there is no question about it keep your child.
2 If there is no doubt he is the father medical services will usually pay for a dna test and force him to pay child support even if he says he wants nothing to do with the baby. If he still refuses they will garnish his wage or put him in jail.
3 Some guys go through a stage when they find out their about to have a baby where they quite simplyare rude f-ing jerks after the baby does come or when you are showing alot more they sometimes change there mind. Not trying to get your hopes up this guy sound like a prick and may not change his mind but some men do.
4 you should never let someone else determine your actions like I said before if you are ready for a baby and the posssibility of being a single mother then keep your child.
GOOD LUCK, AND JUST REMEMBER TO DO WHAT YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO!

Answer 4

i'm in the SAME boat girl. first off, tell him fine if he doesn't want anything to do with it at least he will have something to do with it called child support, if he denies it's his...paternity test then birth papers have to be signed. he can ask you all he wants to have an abortion but it's your body your choice, personally it never crossed my mind although me and my baby's father were broke up when i found out. get tests done that prove it's his, take out child support (if he doesn't pay it's jail time) and if he's gonna be a dick about it you two don't need him, trust me another man will accept you and your baby. right now he is in shock more than likely, being a dick and there are emotions going through his head he doesn't get probably, give him time to think things through. if it's like my situation, there was always a third party around of somekind so this weekend i'm taking him aside to my place or dinner or whatever and basically keeping him talking to him til we discuss things, no yelling it's not good for any of the three of you. but MOST definatly if you need to talk more email me i'm here and completely know what you are going throough

Answer 5

are you kidding me. NO MAN SHOULD EVER...and I mean EVER...let you think you need to get rid of YOUR baby. Let me let you in on a secret...he doesnt have to sign any birth papers stating it is his...A simple blood test will do that. And a court will force that upon him if you want child support! YOu can do this by yourself. My sister has 2 beautiful girls....They are now 7 and 8 years old...she has raised then BY HERSELF....they are great! My boyfriend told me he wanted me to abort the baby im carrying right now...i told him i would rather get rid of him then to have an abortion...cause i dont believe abortion is the right thing. If you really were thinking that you cant have a baby...it has to be for YOUR reasons...which none are good, but....dont abort the baby...think of adoption. Lots of parents out there CANT have kids...but want them. I'm sure you could find someone to take your baby. Just dont give up your baby for a guy...a guy who is making it clear that he probably is worth it anyways. If he was worth your time...he would be with you every step of the way..helping you, being with you...doing what it takes. It takes TWO people to make a baby. YOu make sure he knows that.

Answer 6

I would keep the baby and go after him for child support.

I am against killing babies. You had sex so you need to deal with what comes about from having sex.

The man can go his way as far as I am concerned. If he did not want any kids then he should have kept it in his pants or used a condom...that is the logical thing to have done to prevent a baby.

You being the woman could have prevent this to by using birth control pills or something or just said no to him.

Now that there is a baby in the picture, just take care of it and make him pay. He does not have to sign any papers. My first child his father denied him and did not sign any birth papers, but the state does make him pay child support.

Answer 7

Continue with the pregnancy, get rid of him. Many woman raise children on thier own and you can too. Fine, if he doesn't want to sign any papers he doesn't have to, just file the paper work for child support after the child is born and the court will have him take a DNA test to determine if the child is his and make him pay child support.

If you are happy about being pregnant and you want this baby then great, he has done his part, he layed his seed and thats all we need. If you don't want this child then give it up for adoption. Don't get an abortion just cuz some ******** got your pregnant. He should have known it would happen if you don't protect yourself.

Answer 8

First of all, everything between me and the father would be over forever. No man had the right to have sex with a female and then deny a child is his without proving it. He is completely irresponsible and immature. Second, all his threats are useless. If you have the child, go to court, the court will prove that he is the father, he will have to pay and he will have to sign papers. Tough **** for him!!! He thinks he can threaten you and be above the law, sorry but it doesn't work that way. Girl, you need to leave him, have the baby (if you have the means to keep it then you can raise it, otherwise adoption is a beautiful option). If you choose to keep the child, get this "boy" out of your life after one trip to court!

Answer 9

If you want to have this baby then yes, but this guy isn't going to be around for you even if you don't have it. He is not thinking of you and he is not worthy of you. You deserve much much better. If you don't think that you are able to take care of the baby, consider adoption before you consider abortion. It is your choice, but think of the happiness you could give another couple and the love your child would receive. I am sorry that the father is such a jerk, but let him say it is not his he can get DNA after the baby is born and then the court Will make him take some responsibility. Good Luck to you and I hope that every thing gets better for you.

Answer 10

Yes, there is no reason to end a perfectly healthy pregnancy because of some *** hole man. This is no fault of your innocent child's. Consider adoption, not abortion - Please! I couldn't even end a pregnancy if I were raped. This is a perfectly formed human life that did nothing to be killed.

And, by the way, the same thing happened to me. I was planning on being a single mother and loved the child so much but I miscarried at 13 weeks. I felt terrible because I wasn't thrilled about being pregnant and I regret every second of my doubtful feelings. (I never considered abortion but I did wonder how I get myself into this.) That was several years ago and not I have a very healthy daughter with my husband.

Answer 11

well- my situation is not all of those listed for you- but when I was 24 I got pregnant and told the Dad- he was not concerned in the least with either of us at that point. We had broken up and tried to get back together- and that is when I got pregnant. I was 10 weeks prego before I took a test and then called the *Dad* to tell him- needless to say I still went through the pregnancy and now have a spectacular 10 yr old son! His biological father has never been in the picture but I married a great guy when my son was only 2 yrs old and my husband is ***DAD*** now!! Somethings happen for a reason in your life and I can honestly say that I would *never, ever, ever* change one moment of my son's life!!
Good luck- as long as you have a strong support network of your family and friends- you can do this without the father- and one day you will meet a great guy that will accept both you and your baby as his wife and son/daughter!