he is 8yrs older than me and i have toys and have shown him how i like them used--he isnt interested in adult movies--i have tried looking at adult toy websites hoping to get him interested--i dont want to intimidate him--but i need to teach him what and how i like it--i am more submissive than dominate so this is hard for me to communicate to him--HELP--LoL! i have even told him that there is nothing that he can do that i wont like--my last lover was WILD in bed--but he is in prison now--im going insane here! LoL!
2006-08-24 12:50:25 · 7 answers · asked by wants to work at home 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
andyb--he as asked me how to satisfy me--i think he is just inexperienced in this area--he has never had a woman as uninhibited as me--this is what he said....
2006-08-24 12:54:33 · update #1
i only compared him to my last lover here--i would never say that to him--i do not want to hurt him in any way--he is a great guy--i just dont think he knows what to do--i feel like i have a 42yrs old virgin in my bed--LoL!
2006-08-24 13:00:07 · update #2
maybe i should bring home another woman--LMAO!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-24 13:02:13 · update #3
Take it slow, he may be intimidated your ex even if you haven't mentioned him. You are uninhibited and he has to credit that to your past experience. Just surprise him in bed with little subtle changes. Do something just a little wilder than you normally do together. If you kiss his chest, instead, run your tongue over it, bite a little. Nothing too surprising, just a little bit, and work your way into more adventurous things. He may only need to gain confidence and trust in you that you won't judge his performance. You can still maintain the submissive aspect because you don't have to write instructions and he will begin to trust that he can lose those inhibitions without losing face. Very important....if he tries something new, make sure he knows you like it even if you don't necessarily. Not the act itself but the effort is what you're going for right now.
2006-08-24 13:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't compare him to your last lover. wild in bed . well the man you are with now just isn't the wild lover and i do understand your concern . Talk to him be open and honest , ask him if there is anything you are doing wrong that he doesn't like . Dress sexy and sexy talk him . sexy walk him.
2006-08-24 12:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have tried everything, I would move on. Guys are a little put out by chicks telling them what to do (or really into it, which he obviously isn't). I am sure you will make another guy VERY happy :)
2006-08-24 12:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by scottie2h2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it during sex, in a sexy voice. He'll listen. But if it doesnt work, then maybe write him a email with everything that you want from him but in a sexy nasty poem. He will love it and remember thats what you like.
2006-08-24 12:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kawainani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST USE YOUR TOYS BECAUSE HE MIGHT STILL DO NOT WANNA LEARN THEY ARE SET IN THEIR WAYS. I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE ONE 29 YEARS OLDER THEN ME.. AND I'M GOING CRAZY , I SEE WHY PEOPLE CHEAT NOW.. GIRL GOOD LUCK..
2006-08-24 13:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good hell you sound like fun
2006-08-24 12:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by gruntlicker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him what he wants? maybe you two just aren't compatible. it happens.
2006-08-24 12:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by andyb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋