my husband has an ex he was married 2 for 22 years even though he says he doesn't want her cause she cheated on him, he constantly flirts and laugh out loud when she is around. they have grown kids and occasionally we run into each other. What do u think?
2006-08-24 12:31:53 · 11 answers · asked by Happi @ss 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he wants her to know he is happy and comfortable with his life now. Maybe he is letting her know he can be around her and be her friend and it doesn't bother him anymore. It may not be the negative thing you think it is.
2006-08-24 21:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? All that laughing he is doing is probably his way of letting her know, what's her lost is another woman's gain--meaning you. Pay closer attention to see if it is truly flirting that he is doing or is it him just rubbing it in her face that he has moved on and found someone else that is not a whore. Do you think he really want her back after what she did to him? Talk to him about this okay? You might get a better understanding from him.
2006-08-24 12:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd flip out. i would understand if he had a relationship with his ex for years and are comfortable around eachother and also have kids, but that doesnt mean he can still flirt with her!
i would have a talk with him. tell him it bothers you. tell him your not a gelous person ( becus that could scare him away ) but tell him that you dont like it when he flirts with her.
why does he still do it? thats what im thinking of. but then again all men flirt with their ex's at some point. even girls with their ex's. thank god i dont have an ex. i married my first boyfriend who is my husband now and always will be. but he did have an ex befor me and sometimes it bothers me when they talk together. i see her lookin at him. checkin on him. i wish i could move her on the other side of the USA. but i guess you just have to get used to it.
just let him know to cool it down and not flirt with her at all. tell him that he can still talk to her if he meets her but stop the flirting.
2006-08-24 12:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is a case of wanting what you can't have. They did have a long time together and then for what ever reason split. The emotional and physical ties that bound them in marriage do not just disappear because the courts say the marriage is over. If you trust your husband, be courteous, minimize contact and talk it over with him. Build joyful ties with him, don't try to build up your marriage using negative references to his ex-wifes past indiscretions. He will be driven to defend her and that will only hurt your marriage and make you jealous.
2006-08-24 12:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. 22 years its a long time. People grow use to each other and I guess the occasional gesture it's common. But if it bothers you, you should talk with him about it. You are his priority and need to learn that
2006-08-24 12:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex of 13 years does the same thing to me. The thing is, my teenager tells me how miserable his dad and new wife really are. Laugh with it. Hubby is trying to make his ex jealous. If they spit last year or something and you are the rebound new partner, yeah, then I would say you have an issue at hand.
2006-08-24 12:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they share after 22 years being together can't be taken away, even after both of them have moved on. I think you're just feeling insecure; what you have described is fairly innocent. I think, older people in general tend to put anger and hate behind them, many of my friends' parents are divorced, but get along just fine.
2006-08-24 12:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by codex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're his wife now, that's what i think :) dont let it affect you too much...trust your husband..mabye its jsut normal between him and his ex after all they've been married for too long..and its no big deal for them..
2006-08-24 12:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to pay ATTENTION to whats going on around you. (Be carefull and be serious)
2006-08-24 12:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by wfm41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not be insecure in your relationship.I'm sure that it's nothing to their friendship.Just talk to him and let him know how you are feeling.But, don't worry as long as he come home to you there is nothing to worry about.
2006-08-24 12:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋