Seems like young newleyweds have that "Love is all we need" attitude. If you agree, then is it b/c there's less financial pressure at that stage in the marraige-no kids, small house, no rush to be home, plenty of savings... Are there odler long married couples who aren't so stressed by finances and busy schedules? Is it b/c those older couples are making all the money they need and are at home as much as they want to be?
2006-08-24 12:17:44 · 12 answers · asked by mistergenderbender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just from my personal standpoint... When you're young there's a lot of hope for "the future". You might not have much money now, not have a nice car or not live in a nice house - but there's always "the future" where everything becomes possible. Older people just don't have "the future", they look at the "now". Expectations are indeed different of a young kid fresh out of college, and a mature person in their 30s.
Also, I think as you mature you start to realize that "love" encompasses all kinds of emotions, not just infatuation with each other.
2006-08-24 12:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by codex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The expectations of newlyweds are much different. Usually the newly wed have money woes but in general they make do or break up over it. Love and newness cures a lot of detail ills. I think as you get older together, assuming you're still married, you've seen and dealt with a lot of the big issues as a couple and know where the other is coming from. The financial stress does not go away its more knowing what you've got and what you are going to get. The future also becomes a lot more clear after you've been through a big chunk of it. Its also a lot easier knowing that the kids are grown and you can do nothing more by way of teaching. They are who they are. The empty nest thing forces you to consider each other more as well. Maybe its just that youth is characterized by excitement and age by comfort.
2006-08-24 20:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only natural for the newlyweds views to be different. But it depends on the type of newlyweds, because there are some that are getting married because they do have kids and they are very young. So they will experience some of the things the older married couple go through. But for the newlyweds without kids and things like that, they might have that view of "love is all we need" but some newlywed couples are more driven now than they were in the past.
2006-08-24 19:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i have been married for almost 2 years now.. and we still have the 'love is all we need' attitude.. and we are expecting our first child. my husband is in the air force (definitely not making a fortune) and i'm a housewife who will be a stay a home mom.. there is financial pressure all the time- we got married while in college and neither of us had that much to begin with.. it's just how couples view things and make their relationship work.. for my hubby and me, we just say, 'we'll make more money' and then don't worry about it... there's nothing we can do about it.
2006-08-25 00:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course newlyweds have a different outlook than couple who has been married longer. When you just marry someone everything is new and fresh and you don't have too many responsibilities other than just the 2 of you. When you are married many years you have the bills, your in laws, yourselves, kids, etc to worry about.
2006-08-24 19:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newlyweds don't have much too worry about yet. They are still enjoying each other and getting over the newness of each other. I have been married 19 years and we have all the stresses of living paycheck to paycheck, getting 4 children to their different schools and getting to work on time.
2006-08-24 19:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been married just over a year and everything between us is rosey but outside influences and baggage he has sometimes interupts life so justb/cause u r newly married dont mean u dont have issues 2 deal with every realationship is unique
2006-08-24 19:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
old married couples as you call them are not as stressed as you may think as we learn to deal with our issues, love changes through time, or grows, the passion may not be as intense aas it first was, but it still keeps the fires a blaze
2006-08-24 20:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your observation migth be rigth but often they dont know what is ahead of them especially the reckless ones the going migth be smooth at the beginnig probablly with what you have analised but with proper planning,sincerity,faithfullness,committment their love will be stronger though there may be quarrel exchange of words,suspicion .all is part of the game.do have fun and enjoy yuor love life
2006-08-24 19:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by ednut37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIAGE WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG IS STUPID
HAD A VERY WISE COLLEGE TEACHER WHO TOLD ME AND OTHERES TO STAY SINGLE AND SEE THE WORLD
THEN WHEN YOU HAVE EVERYTHING OUT OF THE WAY
GET MARRIED WHEN YOU ARE 40
ADOPT KIDS
AND IT WILL WORK OUT FOR YOU
GOOD ADVICE
WELL TAKEN
2006-08-24 19:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋