2006-08-24 12:15:25 · 15 answers · asked by Pretty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She was pregnant way before our time. the baby maynot be his. DNA test due in 2weeks. He's a good man, i just dont know if i'm ready for the responsibility
2006-08-24 13:04:25 · update #1
Don't let suspicion interfere with your relationship with your guy. Often,past partners will attempt to sabotage another's relationship. Try not to be judgmental until it can be determined by DNA testing if it is accusation or child
2006-08-24 12:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love him be understanding and suppotive and proud that he is living up to his responsibility rather than jsut ditching the child. If you love him the fact that he and an ex had a child chouldn't come into play. He should have a peaceful friendship with the mother to help on the child's behalf but theres no reason that it should effect your relationship negativly. If he has the child for a visit be friendly and caring with the child. Just continue with the relationship as it was no need to let that bother you, he can't change the past can jsut live with the present and move to the future.
2006-08-24 12:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try walking in their shoes.......
Two people in love. A weak intimate moment. They are no loger together, but the girl wants the child coz she probably really loved him.
If you were in his place, what would you have done? If you were in HER place, then what would you have done?
The question is not about the baby. It is about your relationship with him. Does he really love you? Do you truly love him?
If the answer is yes, forgive him for the mistake even you and I could have made.
But if you are not sure about your relationship, just walk out of it. You will do no good to each other then.
But remember...may be this is the time when he needs you the most.
2006-08-24 12:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Akshat S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you dating him when she got pregnant? If so dump the cheater. If you were not in the picture mind your own business. He is only your boyfriend not your husband. If he gets a DNA test and finds out it is his and does not pay child support or calls the mother out of her name dump him or you will be the next chick he calls a b****.
2006-08-24 12:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if the baby was concieved before your time with him, then, you need to love that baby just like it was yours. Don't hate the baby or the father, this will let you know what kind of a father he will be to your children, if you ever have any
my husband found out that he had a 12 year old after we were married for 9 years, this was before my time, i love that child just like it is mine, and he loves me even more because I love her liike she was mine
2006-08-24 12:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by elegant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you at the time, dump him. If not and you got together with him afterwards, ask him what he will be doing for the baby. If he is going to be a part of it's life or not, and make sure you both understand what his desicion entails. Figure it out now as much as you can so there are no suprises later on.
2006-08-24 12:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking to your bf and finding out the truth would be a good place to start. If he is unsure if the child is his then he needs to get a paternity test done. Once he knows whether the child is his, you can both work out what to do next.
2006-08-24 12:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you using for contraception? I would proceed very cautiously. Be open and warm but, take care of yourself. Do you really want to hook up with a guy that has a child? And what is the status of his relationship with the baby's mom? How is he going to interact with the child? With the mom? Way too complicated for me.
2006-08-24 12:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should get a DNA test to make sure. If you stay with him, and the baby is his, you'll have nothing but drama from his ex for as long as your with him. If you want to put up with all that crap then stay, but I wouldn't advise it.
2006-08-24 12:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by flowwjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
History. He's history! Unless he confided to you all along. But now you'll play 2ND fiddle. Ask yourself do you want this? Aren't you worth more? I bet the answer is "yes!" Love yourself. Respect yourself. Do what's right!
2006-08-24 12:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋