a friend called me and told me her husband molested their adopted 12 year old daughter. she then started telling me all the resons why she should stay with him. i got back to her a couple days later and told her i dont agree with her decisions on the issue. she then emailed me back and justified herself even more. she says she stays for financial stability. she also says she made her husband see a counselor. but the husband is to lie and say he had an affair. she says she councels mariah everyday to help her heal. and that the husband is to start the daughter a savings account for 50 dollars a month. she also had the daughter make up rules for the dad to follow. but has told her that some of the rules might be broken. i told her she needs to leave him if she loves her daughter. she doesnt agree. i told her i am going to go talk to a chaplain and get a professionals opinion, she has yet to get back to me. theres alot more to this but i dont have enough space, from a concerened mother.
2006-08-24 12:10:06 · 24 answers · asked by sue man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this girl and two siblings came to my friend thru foster care. the girl would rather stay with my friend than go back to poverty. yes, it is on my conscious to report her. and i will more than likely do that. i just wanted to get opinions and perspectives from the public. and yes i will be calling CPS in her state. i will be sacrificing our friendship and her marriage and foster work. i know what is at stake. i realize the girl is the most important in this issue. believe me, i am devestated for the girl, i have children of my own.
2006-08-24 12:39:51 · update #1
Your friend is endangering countless numbers of children's lives. She is supporting, aiding, and abetting a Pedophile. He is sick and probably can't be made normal.
Your obligation to society is to call Social Services and make sure they don't get their hands on any more children, that he is prosecuted for his crime, and is put away where he can't hurt more children.
I pray you have a backbone and do the right thing. Otherwise, it will weigh on your conscious for the rest of your life.
2006-08-24 12:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by ACK & DJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are RIGHT ! Your friend is a dork and she don't know which is right or wrong. You say the girl is adopted. Would she allow her low life , filthy man to continue on. What in the hell is wrong with her. Or do you suppose she condones it. I think Department of Human Service to Abuse Children should be called in. The poor girl probably doesn't know what to do. Think of the shame and fright she is enduring. This Mother does not think much of this girl if she is even letting him lie to a counselor. Sounds like she is off her base too. Get the girl out of their home, because this low life Father and this Mother without a backbone will let it continue. Could be it has been going on for a long time. Poor Kid, doesn't know what to do. You help the girl, She is the one who needs to be rescued. Possibly, you are the only one, who cares. Take care and may God bless the defensless child and you, who should help her. Good Luck
2006-08-24 12:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL THE POLICE! If you want, make it anonymous - but call the cops! It's illegal and there should be NO CHILDREN anywhere near this guy! You have a responsibility as a citizen to report this situation and then let the authorities handle it. Please get smart and report this! Best friend or not, this is a CHILD being endangered and scarred for life.
How good of a counselor do you really think this mom is for the girl anyway?! She thinks this sex offender is worth staying married to!
2006-08-24 12:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by rrhiannon99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i woudn't stay with that stay with that so called husband of hers. If she has financial deficaltys then let her stay at a friends house for a little bit or even her parents house. This is how the guy is and no matter what he will never change. I don't know who whould want to be married to a husband that molested her kid. If she doesn't leave him then she does not love her daughter. Or respect her. Sooner or later her daughter is going to be asking why she did not leave him and trust me her daughter is not going to like that her mom just stayed with him for money.
2006-08-24 12:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by dancerforever101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This lady is crazy. The man will not change. How many times have you read about someone who molested a child and changed his ways? Child molesters always repeat.
How can that poor girl ever feel safe in her home? She cannot ever be left alone with that man. What is wrong with the friend? How can she not see what is going on to that girl if the husband is not taken out of the picture?
2006-08-24 12:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the molestation should be reported immediately!!! I think the so-called mom needs a mental evaluation. I also question your loyalty as a friend?? If you're her friend, 'Why haven't you reported this to the authorities??? It's obvious that the wife is BRAIN WASHED and suffering a severe case of DENIAL!!!! No amount of money will ever repay that little girl for the mental trauma that she will experience for the rest of her life!!! And please, tell me how a "SICKO", like your friend can counsel the child, when she needs counseling herself??? I think ALL OF YOU need to be locked up in prison, including you, for letting something this serious go unreported and jeopardizing the safety of the other children!!
2006-08-24 12:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure who is worse, the guy molesting the young, innocent children OR the women who is fully aware of this happening and doing nothing about it!
Do you know what kind of impact that situation would have on this child? The poor thing has obviously already been through enough in her life (to be in foster care) and the people who have responsibilities now for her welfare are downright abusing it!
50 bucks a month in exchange for a child suffering abuse - wtf is that about? A savings account doesnt make up for it.
If it was me in your situation - i dont care how good a friend she is - i would go right up to the husband, kick him in the balls, and if my friend didnt report it, i would have nothing more to do with them coz they are sick people!!!!!!
2006-08-24 12:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow, putting her daughter is the worst thing she could possibly do. I know because my mom did the same thing. using the same "we need the money" line. Im pretty sure the girl would rather live in a box then live with that freak, and if someones finds out she knew and let her daughter stay in the same house, she could go to jail. My mom had to go to court for it. The max penalty was 7 years.
2006-08-24 12:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by iloveyouthismuchok 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This woman needs counseling.That is obvious.She is helping him to stay free to make it easier to repeat his crime to the daughter and other children.They don't stop,counseling does not help them nor due rules. Pedophiles repeat and repeat.I just heard of another one on the news today got 21yrs. they get out earlier and get good time which I believe is a big mistake.I am happy to hear your doing what you can.They should all be kept together somewhere so they can't even see a child.
2006-08-24 12:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really horrible that he did that to her and ignorant of the mother. This happened to my cousin. My uncle molested her and then my aunt stayed with him!!! Needless to say as soon as she turned 18yrs old she moved out, got married and did not invite them to the wedding. She does not talk to them anymore and neither do we. That lady is really stupid to be even questioning it, she needs to get out! The fact that the man is still in the same house? All the counseling in the world is not going to help her if she never gets away from him.
2006-08-24 12:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋