2006-08-24 12:00:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are you afraid that they will love their new baby more than you? Maybe you should talk to them about it.
2006-08-24 12:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by want it bad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you an only child? I am an only child and both my mom and dad had children after they divorced. I will not tell you that everything was peachy. But, I can honestly say that I love my half siblings, especially the sister I lived with the longest.
Maybe you should ask you mom if you can get some counseling to help you deal with the upcoming changes. I know it is hard to feel like you have no control over your life. If and when you feel too upset, try to keep in mind that you'll eventually move out and will have the chance to build the family you wished you had. Remember that your mom and dad deserve to have the same opportunity.
2006-08-24 13:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Celeste A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be outraged. Your mom married your step dad and they are just adding to the family. This should be a joyous time for everyone. It sounds like you still have some anger about your parent's divorce, and that can be very natural. You need to talk to your mom about how you are feeling and get your emotions out into the open. You are going to be a big sister and need to be able to love this baby and be a functional part of your family.
2006-08-24 12:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings, I think. Your step Dad is not your real dad, and pregnancy makes the fact that your real father is out of your life seem more permanent. Also, it probably makes you think your mother loves you less, because the new baby will be a half brother or sister.
Your feelings are normal. If they stay that way, though, that is not healthy. So you are going to have to understand some things.
First, none of this is the baby's fault. And you can be in that baby's life and help it grow and when you both grow up you can have someone who will be a friend for life. That's something you can do.
Secondly, I'm sure it hurts your mother that you are angry with her. She may even understand why you are angry. You need to talk with her alone and tell her how you feel and ask her to help you--to make sure she shows you that she doesn't love you any less.
Your step dad is harder. Because in a way, you probably blame him most of all. I don't know why your mother re-married. But I would talk to your step dad, too. And ask him to help you and to show you love.
When you talk with them, try to be calm. Try to tell them all your fears, and because you wrote help in big letters, I think you really want to love them and them to love you.
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Ask if you can pick the colors for the baby's room, help with buying clothes, picking out furniture, stuff like that. Don't let yourself be on the outside of this.
But because of your feelings you need their help to help you come in and be a part of your family again, and to learn to love them and be loved by them.
God bless and I hope so much you will be able to solve this problem. It's harder for some of us to let things go than for others, and I will pray for you that God will help you and your family through this.
2006-08-24 12:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it. You're not the center of the Universe. They still like you, I promise. They love you a lot. Give them some credit. You think their lives are easy and they need to live it just the way you want them to?
Think about that.
2006-08-24 12:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well someday you will grow up and be more understanding of adult behavior. And someday you will move away from home. Try seeing their side of it. Apparently they are good people and want to raise another child. You should support them. After all, you will have a little half-sister or half-brother and you might as well enjoy it.
2006-08-24 12:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are married, doing what comes naturally..sounds like you may be jealous of the time and energy they will devote to the new baby..maybe you are embarrassed because "mothers of kids your age don't do things like that."remember it is not the baby's fault..hopefully you will take one look @ the baby and fall madly in love..
2006-08-24 12:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by jst4pat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is all what you make it. don't worry about what the other people in your life will have to deal with for the rest of theirs. concentrate on making good decisions that will MAKE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT IT. if you live with them just try to seem supportive (even though you totally aren't - which I wouldn't be either) and know that once you move out the world is yours to live in however you want.
2006-08-24 12:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by wabawaba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I ask why you are outraged? You should be happy for them!
2006-08-24 12:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by peterboro_first 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so mad?You will still get attention too.You need to think about what is making you so mad.
2006-08-24 12:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋