i cant understand why he wont try to work it out he says he is not happy with his self so he cant make me happy guess what he has made it worse all im doing is crying he saya he still loves me
2006-08-24 11:55:46 · 19 answers · asked by MICHELE w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What kind of marriage did you have? Did you fight and argue all the time? What has made him so unhappy with him-self?
I don't really know how to answer your question because you didn't give enough details about you marriage.
I know you are hurting right now but in time things will get better.
When some time has passed pick your self up and dust yourself off get a make over and pamper your self. Move on with your life.
This could be the best thing that ever happened to you. In time you may meet a new guy worthy of all you have to offer. And you may find that you love this guy way more than you ever loved your ex.
2006-08-24 13:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be more to this story than he's willing to say, because he should have let you know this well before he decided to go. Sorry to hear about this happening so sudden because it will have a hard impact on you mentally. Say your prayers for your peace of mind during this difficult time and ask God to help you by guiding you toward happiness in your life. It's not going to be easy by any means, but have faith that things will work out for the better.
2006-08-24 12:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are going through such a hard time right now. The best thing to do is surround yourself with family and friends for support, but also to talk to a counselor will help too. It's hard to be rejected by someone you love and care about, but he is right, it is him - he's a selfish jerk. Give it some time, we have all been there.
2006-08-24 12:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur prob feeling rock bottom at the moment but dont let him play u try and b strong and cry if u want 2 tough **** if it makes him feel crap the truth will out in the end i think he sounds full of crap if he cant b a man and b straight with u then u r better without him although u may not believe that at the moment - chin up
2006-08-24 12:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's terrible news. It'll be a rough, rough go no doubt about it. About the worst thing I can think of. Rule number one: You are a good, worthwhile, valuable person in spite of his inability to make a logical decision and choice. Rule number two: When everything goes to h--- in a handbasket, remember Rule number one.
He sounds quite confused. He may not be but he sounds that way perhaps due to guilt or who knows what else.
2006-08-24 12:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Protect yourself and your future. Run, don't walk to a decent lawyer and find out how to proceed. In the long run, it will help you stay on your feet when you feel like the world is crashing in around you.
It's ok to cry, its a terrible thing. It's ok to mourn the loss.
I'm sorry. I hope things get better.
In the mean time, hold your head high and for god's sake, protect yourself and your future.
2006-08-24 12:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by ACK & DJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well surround ur self w some family and friends ,the truth is may love u but he just has personal issues to work out , but u are going to have to go on and it will be hard awhile but it will get easier u can try and talk w/ him but if all he says is it's him u are not going to get anywhere , and do somthing to keep u buisy hope i can help.
2006-08-24 12:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not love you. you don't hurt or love people that you love. if he is not happy with himself, why can't he just get counseling and not break up his home? believe me, he does not love you. and quess what? you will live and survive. you will meet another man and go on with your life. life does not end with one male idiot. he's just making excuses to be "free" and single again. is there another woman involved? i'd be willing to bet there is. go on with your life. the best revenge is to live life well and be happy. volunteer to help others if you have the time. read some good novels or watch movies. of course you will grieve for him awhile, but you will make it through this.
2006-08-24 12:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by teri s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, it's the old "it's not you, it's me" line! Don't fall for it. He's trying to soften the blow, but the fact is - he doesn't want to be with you, plain and simple. Try to regroup and start a new life without him. Talk to your friends, try not to be alone at first. Time heals, the pain will pass eventually. We have all been through it... but found a better life afterwards. Keep your chin up.
2006-08-24 12:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by codex 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy have I heard all of the same stuff before. It turned out my ex had been having an affair with a friend of mine for two years. That's why he wouldn't try to work it out or go to counseling.
2006-08-24 12:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋