My husband works third shift three days a week and when he is off. He is always on the computer talking to who every mainly females which he says are just friends but flirts and tells them he loves them when i asked him about this he says he is joking but to me the word love is not a joke he will do anything and everything he can to be on the computer and he is on there 6 to 7 hours at a time when im in bed. When is not the computer he is talking secreatly on the phone and even though i have been sitting in the house all day with our daughter he sleeps which i understand he was up all night but he always lies to me by telling me we will go here or there. But when he wakes up its a different story the first thing he does is get on the computer then when im sleeping he will go to the store for a couple of hours but when im with him at a store that he wants to go to we are there maybe a half hour
2006-08-24 11:51:33 · 19 answers · asked by shymom83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know what's going on but I do know that we women have a sixth sense about these things. If you feel that he may be cheating
then you might have to follow him one of these times and check it out...
2006-08-24 11:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I cant tell you if your husband is cheating and anyone who does is speculating. However, I must address another issue. It sounds to me that you lack the self confidence to NOT TOLERATE this type of behavior. Why are u putting up with this? Don't you think you and your child deserve someone who WANTS to be with them and WANTS to spend time with them? He obviously has other interest but he is taking you for granite. But...How are you dressed when he comes home? Are you taking time to look good for him? Taking care of yourself will not only get his attention (IF he isn't cheating)but it will make you feel better about yourself. What about the sex life...that's your clue..men have to have it! Compare his sex drive now to the time when you were a healthy couple. If he "ain't" wanting to get it at home- he's gettin it somewhere else. After all we all know-Men cant go without it. My prayers are with you and i wish you all the best.
2006-08-24 19:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. He is definetly cheating. I work two jobs one after the other for five days a week, but I DO manage to make time for anyone who I REALLY WANT TO SEE, no matter how busy or tired I could be.
The whole I LOVE YOU to strangers is definetly cheating. You need to put an end to this or move on
2006-08-24 18:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more to your issue than if he's cheating. He apparently doesn't want to spend time with you. It's very obvious that you are angry in this question- are you that angry around him? MAYBE you two should try family/marriage counseling. If he's a great dad, and he takes care of everything 'important' then you should try to find out what's going on with him. Don't assume that he's cheating until you have a legit reason. by the way---- have you talked to him about how you feel???????????????
2006-08-24 18:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by sherdencutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is just sitting on the computer, he is not cheating(yet). Don't say that he is cheating, until he does. If you say he is cheating now, buy just chatting, then he might as well cheat...he has nothing to loose as you have already condemn him.
It sounds more like he is just flirting. remember that the word 'love' has very little meaning to a guy. Like this....'I loved answering this question'....
2006-08-24 18:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur husband has serious priority issues. You might want to start by laying down some ground rules. That's way out of hand. Love is not a joke. His not spending time with you is not a joke. Talk to him about it. And get some counseling. I hope he'll come around.
2006-08-24 18:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is emotionally cheating whether physically or not. Have someone call him posing as a telemarketer for an E flower service, tell him he has won a free delivery of a dozen roses to anyone anywhere see where he sends them, ask what he wants the card to say.........if you really want to see the answer. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 18:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's cheating, but I think the computer chicks are kind of a fantasy for him. If he was cheating, his behavior would be more sneaky.
Why don't you focus on trying to win back his attention. Wear sexy outfits and flirt. If you need to hit the gym and tone up. Do your hair.
2006-08-24 18:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Hypocrite Hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he is. If he's ignoring you and paying attention to other women, it's a warning sign. Talk to him, bring up marriage counseling. If he refuses, go alone.
But this is a bad sign.
2006-08-24 18:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by zoastriastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya devorse him duhhhhhh or at least ask him to get another job also how is he in bed
2006-08-24 18:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by rodeogurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋