Do you ever feel like you are your spouse's last priority?

Question

Sometimes I feel this way. My hubby is really busy with work and school both full time, so I don't wanna bother him. I am also a full time student, and I spend my days taking care of our son. I know it hard to make time, but how do I go about asking him to make some special time for just us?

Answer 1

As someone who let the same situation go too far, do something NOW. Once you start drifting apart, once you start letting life and other BS become more important than each other you're up the proverbial creek without a paddle. Nothing should take priorority over each other, not school, jobs or kids. If you don't have each other you have nothing. Make time, do things, change priororities while you still can.

Answer 2

I am going through the exact same thing as you... Try to sit down with him when you both have some down time and get your schedules down. Both of you need to look at this and figure out when you both have time to just be together and then just do it. We don't have that luxury because of my husband's odd hours 6 days a week. But we do try to spend time together at the end of the night and just talk about our days or what's going on for the next day or days. when we can do something, it's very rare and very short noticed. and lately we're both too tired to do any thing much.... Try this... after your son is in bed, get some take out or something and sit down together and talk or watch a movie. That's what our Friday night date nights have basically turned into.

Answer 3

being busy with life in general is a common problem with couples, especially if you have a small child! sit him down and explain that you need some time with him. Get out your calendars and find th time when you can do something together, without the child. Find a friend who will give you a couple hours of babysitting. The best way to get free babysitting is to find a friend who also has a child and trade child care times. The best way to get your husband's time is to tell him you need more time with him and you want to schedule something to do together, mark it on both your calendars.

Answer 4

Don't ask. He is your husband. How about planning something yourself? Find a babysitter (ie: parents or friends work well for free) and then plan a dinner out and shooting pool. Nothing no big deal or expense, sharing dinner makes it more romantic and cheaper too. You don't have to be out long...just a couple hours. It's easy to carve out that bit of time. And let him know not to schedule for that time you have set aside for your together time. If he refuses...start crying and make him fix it, cause you can't fix it.

Answer 5

Just ask him how he would feel about some quality time for you and him each day. Maybe 30 minutes each day after the baby goes down for bed.

Answer 6

Be honest and straight-forward with him. The two of you should be able to reach some kind of a compromise, if you're both willing.

Answer 7

yes i felt like that and it is ending in a divorce but there was more problems than that.
just tell your husband how you are feeling and set up a once a week date

Answer 8

WHATS WRONG WITH YOU?...STEP UP...SIMPLY TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL IN THE NICEST WAY. REGUARDLESS OF HOW BUSY HE IS..YOU ARE STILL HIS WIFE..HE DECIDED WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED THAT YOU WOULD BE FIRST PRIORITY...HE NEEDS TO REMEBER THAT!!!!
YOU SHOULD BE MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANY JOB..SCHOOL..EVEN YOUR CHILD...WIFE COMES FIRST ITS IN THE BIBLE!

Answer 9

tell him you need some grown up time

Answer 10

straight forward,tell him to put it in his dayplanner.if the guy is like me we dont take hints very well so please speak your mind.