My wife and I have a 3year old daughter. My wife feels as though I don't show how much I love her because I "spend" all my love on our daughter. My wife has become increasingly hostile and difficult to be around. Ironically, I'm finding myself less and less attracted to her because she's so volitale and nasty. From her perspective I have created the entire situation. Before the baby was born my wife was convinced I wasn't ready for a child and now that we have a beautiful little girl she upset that I am too good of a father? If i sound confused its because i am. What should I do.
2006-08-24 11:50:00 · 8 answers · asked by Hella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well usually its the woman who get accused of loving the baby more than hubby. its actually kind of natural. try talking 2 her n doing some special things just u and her. remember u have a relationship u have 2 keep going 2.
try getting a babysitter one night a week n doing something special just the two of u. have time 2gether just u 2 without the children it is very important. she feels left out n yes she is acting childish but she is hurting.
if all else fails go 2 couples counceling.
good luck
2006-08-24 11:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have a problem. It sounds like your wife is feeling like she is NOT #1 to you and is acting out about this and is actually jealous of your child. The first thing you need to do is make her understand that she is #1 and that you are both parenting a beautiful child together and that sometimes, that can demand your attention and it is not because she isn't the top priority to you. This is just part of being a good parent and creating a family unit. Also, you could try including your wife when you interact with your child so that it is more of a family time, rather than a father / daughter time. Also, as parents, you both need to set aside time on a regular basis to have a date night or something to keep your marriage on track and 2 rules I suggest are that you are not allowed to talk about money or your daughter during this time. One day your child will grow up and be gone on her own and you will end up being married to someone you don't even know anymore if you don't put in the time now and through these parenting years.
Other than that, if none of the above work, I would say that your wife is immature and needs some serious counselling to overcome her feelings of neglect and being unloved as it probably has nothing to do with you or your daughter.
2006-08-24 12:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try taking some space from your daughter to refocus on your wife. Children should never get in the way of marriage. Your daughter shares some blame for the rocky marriage. If you end up divorcing, your daughter will realize this, especially after input from her mother. Your daughter is only 3. You have plenty of time to lavish her with your attention. For now, get your priorities straight.
2006-08-24 13:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by rrbowker2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants more attention.. sometimes men get that way after a child is born.. all the time spent on the child and the father/mother feels like they want to be babied too.
2006-08-24 11:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me explain from my own experience with this. From the moment my husband saw our daughter being born there was no room for me in his life. She was all he cared about. Even my baby girl did not want me. She would push me away and run to daddy. I later had a son who I spoiled terribly to make sure that someone would love me. My daughter became a teenager and started to argue and even hit me. My husband always took her side. We divorced and my daughter lived with her precious dad while my son lived with me. After the divorce it was 6 years before my daughter spoke to me.
2006-08-24 12:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman are funny people..one minute you're not paying much attention, the next its not enough,and I'm a woman! post natal depression can last for up to four years after the birth of a child so dont be too harsh, she may need a bit of help.
2006-08-24 12:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like you can ever make this woman happy. don't know what to tell you. good luck
2006-08-24 12:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its her insecurity.Pay equal attention to her****************************************
2006-08-28 09:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋