We were together for 5 years, and he started doing meth and he had me thrown out on the streets, i had to move away from him, he hates me, and doesnt see i love him more than myself, why can't i have the love of my life back, im hurting so bad, my days r empty, and hollow without him, i love u mikey please come back to me. god someone help this hurting stop...please
2006-08-24 11:13:02 · 13 answers · asked by James (JayDilla) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am also HIV+ and feeling like a tainted piece of meat, I don't even know how to start over again and find someone new now. how do u bring that up...during coffee?....ugh life sure can dump a load on ya at times. But thank you all for helping me, I appreciate the words of encouragement
2006-08-24 14:17:43 · update #1
I'm sorry that your hurting so badly. Drugs can make people do terrible and hurtful things. I think that right now you need to stop thinking about this man for a moment. You need to love yourself first. Even if you don't believe this I will tell you and you need to tell yourself that you are a unique and worthwhile human being that deserves love and respect. You deserve more than to be thrown out on the streets. Would some one who loves you really do that? I can see that you love this person alot and seeing how you have been together so long I can see how this is very painful for you. It might be the drugs or maybe this guy was just looking for a way out. If you love him you need to confront him about this drug problem and try to get some help[ for him. The best thing you can do for him is help and support him. Unfortunatly sometimes the people we love start to drift away from us. You may think that he is the love of your life but sometimes things change and thats just a thing of life that we need to learn how to deal with. You need to think about yourself. Is this really a good thing for you? It doesn't sound like it is to me! I really hope that you can convince this guy to get some help, and if not, don't despair. There is someone out there who will love you and respect you for who you are and treat you well. Don't believe that you deserve any less! I'll be praying for you! You CAN get through this!!
2006-08-24 11:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by ms. abby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL IF HE HAD U OUT IN THE STREETS THAT'S A CLUE TO JUST MOVE ON. SECOND U R NEVER SUPPOSE TO LOVE A PERSON MORE THAN YOURSELF. WHAT U NEED TO DO IS GET AWAY. DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR SELF. TAKE SOME CLASSES, LIKE BUSINESS MGMT OR ACCOUNTING TO KEEP U BUSY GO TO YOUR LOCAL COMMUNITY COLLEGE. START A GYM. I PROMISE ACCOMPLISHING SOMETHING WOULD MAKE U FEEL MORE WORTHY OF YOURSELF.
2006-08-24 11:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what's best for you. He has screwed up his life...dont let him screw up yours any more than he already has. I'm not saying that he wont ever change, but you need to move on. You need to grow and experience life for yourself. Even if you were together, it doesnt sound like he would really be there for you. I wish you the best of luck. But do this for you.
2006-08-24 11:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by musician_jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly right now, you need to focus on yourself and your future. There was no future with your past .. with the history and the drug abuse. Seek counseling if you are having issues for your self esteem and know that a person can not make you for who you are.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-24 11:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
. i can see that you love him very much but if he thrown you out on the streets why do you want to be hurt like that.this is not love you don`t do this to someone that you love. there is someone for ever one just ask God and he will be there for you and care for you .love will come one day.just have hope. and i known how much it hurt to love someone that don`t love you back but one you will find someone than will have hope. thank of yourself, and don`t let anyone are anybody hurt you love is not hurting someone like this.
2006-08-24 11:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the guy is hooked on meth he no longer loves you, himslf or anybody for that matter.be happy to be out of that relationship,start watching your belongings, meth users will eventually run out of cash and start stealing from friends and relatives.find a new love.
2006-08-24 11:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by desayunogratis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows that you love him. He isn't liking himself right now. Find something constructive to do with your life and for now you must move on.
2006-08-24 11:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't love himself what you are doing is in vain. stop trying so hard, the love you are giving him, turn it on yourself and someone who wants it and who will love you in return. move on with your life, keep him as a friend but don't keep crying over spilt milk. best of luck!
2006-08-24 11:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by ivory 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen you cant help him if he doesnt want it.He dosent love you if he allowed all this to happen.Go on with your life,you deserve better.
2006-08-24 11:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi james. :) you have loved him too much. you said you love him more than yourself.
well... thats no good. you have to love yourself more. feel good about yourself. then he or other guys or whatever, whomever, will love you too.
:P
good luck.
2006-08-24 11:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋