I've was feeling horrible lately.. and I wasn't being smart and I was cutting myself. I've already had consuling and that made everything worse. Anyways.. I showed my boyfriend and my bestfriend what I did and my bestfriend bursted out into tears.. And my boyfriend's eyes started to water. I feel horrible.. How do I make it up to them? How do I stop this? I'm starting to get a feeling that I don't love anyone anymore either.. any advice would be great..
2006-08-24 11:06:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Not for attention at all..
I didn't want to show them b/c I was afraid they would leave me b/c of it I guess.. Idk.. They want to help me they said but I just don't know. They both want me to stay at their house for a couple weeks but I can't.. :(
2006-08-24 11:15:44 · update #1
Are you hurting yourself for attention perhaps? You need to get more than consoling, you need counseling!
2006-08-24 11:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the first counselor you saw wasn't the one for you. That's no reason to stop. If that one made it worse for you then you have to talk to your mom and dad or someone older that you trust completely and tell them why it made it worse so the problem can be fixed. Some people are in counseling for the money and there are those who go into it just to help someone like you hon. There is nothing wrong with you that cant be fixed. Please believe that. I know its hard but be patient and don't give up. There is help out there. It took me a long time to find someone that actually understood what I was talking about and why i was so depressed. Now that I have found that great doctor I hope to be able to stick with her for a very long time. Please keep trying. If one doesn't work then someone else will. Just don't give up no matter what.
2006-08-24 11:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by pinkpuppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have already had counseling, but you need more. If you didn't like the first counselor then find another. Anyone who does this then shows the people who care about them is not thinking correctly. The only way you can make this up to them is to continue with the counseling. They need to know that you are getting help.
2006-08-24 11:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been to consuling already and your still cutting you should get a new consuler, there are groups for peopl with your didorder. You sound like a sweet person and asking for help is the frist step ...if you need soom one that wont judge you to talk to email me ...and i will try to help ...remember you are puttin you health at risk and im sure a lot of people love you
2006-08-24 11:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by tl848 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself. Once you believe in yourself and can look into the morror and say I'm alright and I love what I see. Your friends will learn or try to understand, if they can't then maybe they are not your friends. Hurting yourself to feel better is not a solution as you already know. But once you love and understand the great person you are then you will be able to move forward in your life. I hope that you can accept you as a really great person and willing to love yourself more.
2006-08-24 11:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by John L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon, When you realize the problems cutting causes you, your family, and your friends, you'll seek psychological help. A behavioral psychologist will assist you in changing your pattern. Ask your folks to get you some help. A lot of people love you, so it should be easy to love them back. It doesn't mean you have to like them. Love is a whole different thing. Good luck and God Bless you.
2006-08-24 11:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by loraineb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way for you to stop doing that is to be happy with yourself. Put you first and nothing else, meaning, do what you have to do to make yourself happy, and then you look at other stuff. If you die from hurting yourself, then your friends will really be sad. Hell, dont worry about how the other people feel for you doing that to yourself, stop hurting yourself like that. That's rediculous. Only crazy people do that. Go to church or find something constructive to do with your time to take your mind off all of your troubles.
2006-08-24 11:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by sr04model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are bringing a lot of attention to your self...but i think you need counseling...i think you hurt your friend and your boyfriend and now they will feel responsible too...i wish i knew what to say to you...but you know it is wrong to hurt yourself like that...you are a beautiful girl i bet...and you have a friend and a boyfriend...why don't you try to think of others and quit hurting yourself and then others by what you are doing...i think you may need medicine that hopefully will help you...i knew a girl once that did this kind of thing but they put her in a mental hospital...she could not be trusted at all....i am not saying you need to be in a mental hospital but there is medicine for depression or for suicidal thoughts...you need help...and i hope you try and get it...
2006-08-24 11:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are cutting yourself becuz u feel that the physical pain is easier to deal with than the emotional pain. cutting gives a false sense of release. remember, tho: it doesnt solve anything at all, just like drugs. counseling is a good idea, as is working to solve ur probs. exercise gives a release similar to cutting, but is healthy, whereas cutting is life threatening. best of luck.
2006-08-24 11:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by chas_see 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my only opion is u should learn 2 apreciate what u have not what u dont have. bc believe me there r people out there with worst problems than u. so chin up it will get better. just no who your friends r . bc believe me they wont 2 help i use 2 b in the same boat u r and the only 1s that helped me get through it was my friends.
2006-08-24 11:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by houdinieandvernon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋