When my husband does something in bed that I don't like or isn't that good, I tell him. It seems to go in one ear out the other though. He continues to act like he knows all and is an expert on what I like. Sometimes he even skips the "introduction" and tries to just go for it. No matter what I say, he seems oblivious. It is causing me to want sex less and less. How do I get through to him? He is more experianced than me and tries to tell me what I will or won't like. I always thought that I knew pretty well what my body liked and didn't. Is he being stupid or concieted?
2006-08-24 11:04:56 · 14 answers · asked by Missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suggest you be agressive as hell one night and see how he likes it.
2006-08-24 11:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by nanny2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear, dear, dear. The male ego is like the Hindenburg - impressive in size, but fragile and full of hot air.
NEVER tell a guy that he isn't cutting it in bed. Of course he's ignoring you! He doesn't want to hear that he's not a good lover!
Try this. You take the lead. Tell him you want to tie him up, then you control when you have intercourse. Offer a massage or oral sex. Just tell him you want to take it slow and enjoy yourself. Appreciate his body and let him know what he's doing right instead of what he's doing wrong. Positive reinforcement is key. You could buy a book like "The Joy of Sex" or get into some good old fashioned porn to give him some ideas.
Good sex lives take work! It may take time, but he'll catch on.
2006-08-24 11:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by shomechely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short of actually stopping when he does something you do not like, or stopping and telling him what it is you want.....you may try to make it into a game. Have him put things he likes in a hat and you do the same in a separate hat. Always leave yourself the option of vetoing ....maybe make a limit of 3 vetos and he pulls a "to do" and then you . Make it fun and inventive
2006-08-24 11:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by bootandpooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish cut him off for a week or two,something tells me he might change his tune! and as for skipping the "introduction" you let let him know that you can skip the middle and end!
2006-08-24 11:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think he is just doing what he likes no matter if you like it or not. i think you should take charge and give him the night of his life. do things that you dont usually do or do things that you think he thinks you know nothing about. then he will see that you know more than what he thinks you know.
2006-08-24 11:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be agressive with him, or do the opposite, tell him NO SEX, until you listen to what I have to say. After awhile he may ( or may not ) listen to you. GOOD LUCK !
2006-08-24 11:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him your needs and desires, and what you would like him to do, that it would make it so much better if he listen to your needs as well.
2006-08-24 11:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. There are therapist that can help in that department.
2006-08-24 11:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video tape a couple of sessions then you can "review the tape" with him and show him how that move didn't get it.
2006-08-24 11:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well then you start doing the pleasing and show him how things are done
2006-08-24 11:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by soul.searcher 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋