2006-08-24 11:02:18 · 13 answers · asked by baymommy75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not your job to keep the marital secrets. If you keep the secret, it will drive a wedge between you and both of your parents.
You will be angry at your dad for putting you in this position. You will feel guilty around your mom because you know she should know.
So, tell your dad that you know. Give him two weeks to tell her himself. Then tell her, if he doesn't.
Keep in mind, there's a good chance she knows already. She may not be willing to say it, but it's very difficult to cheat without the other partner seeing the signs.
2006-08-24 11:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After 35 years of marriage, I have a feeling your mom already knows. She might just be in denial or doesn't want to confront your father because then it all comes to the surface and everyone involved has to deal with it. This is very painful.
2006-08-24 18:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by GT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no! I'm sorry this happens to you. Talk to your dad first. Let him know that you'll not going to keep a secret from you mom. Let him know what your feelings about it. But don't close your heart too for his reasons. Just stay open. Don't judge him. Ask him if there's a way that he can still complete your family. Stay neutral between your parents. Be a comforter for your mom and be considerate with your dad. Help them patch things up if there's a way. After all, you're still a family.
2006-08-24 18:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by denathene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. It's always difficult to learn when a trust has been broken. I think that you should approach your father and try to reach his heart in why his actions are a problem and that he should stop and then be honest with his wife. If he chooses not to do so, then I would tactfully approach your mom. I know this answer sounds a little daring, but I think that your conscience would just gnaw at you if you said nothing.
2006-08-24 18:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by CuriouslySpeaking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Tell your father first. Confront him, show him that you're disappointed that he'd cheat on his wife of 35 years. Then tell him that he has a week to tell your mother. If he doesn't by that time, tell her and tell her to be prepared. Make copies of deeds and bank statements and financial stuff.
2006-08-24 18:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by zoastriastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront your father and let him know that you know about the affair. I would also tell him that he should tell your mother (in a reasonable amount of time) before you do. Good luck. I am a child of divorced parents due to an affair so I kind of know what your facing.
2006-08-24 18:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jewels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad ! You should confront your father with this first, tell him you know he's cheating & its wrong, & that you ARE going to tell your mother, if he dosent. If he's at all violent, Please be careful. Your mom has the right to know, though !
2006-08-24 18:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats their business, confrontyour dad and tell him you know, maybe he'll bribe you to keep quiet, if not why hurt your mom? But Dad;'s pockets are ripe for the picking
2006-08-28 16:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're going through this. It sucks. But If I were you, I'd sit my dad down and confront him.
2006-08-24 18:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father you know and make him tell her...
2006-08-24 18:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋