My wife and I are close to our divorce date, I've been fighting to get her back. It doesn't look like it's gonna happen. Whats the etiquette about staying in contact with your in-laws. I honestly feel closer to them then I do my own parents. What do I do?
2006-08-24 10:58:55 · 14 answers · asked by choirboy5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My in-laws were my only family. Once the divorce came I was devastated to lose everything, not just my husband but my family too. It's been a while and I'm almost as close to his parents as I was back then. They actually like me better than their own son. My boyfriend is still close to his ex's parents as well. In my case, my ex does not want me to have any contact with his parents, but that's more out of jealousy.
Here's what everyone has told me- "he may have divorced you, but we haven't." I call his parents my "honorary parents." His brother and wife consider me to be an adopted sister.
Best of luck! Contact me if you want to.
2006-08-24 11:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to stay in contact with your inlaws if they feel as close to you as you do to them. As long as its not excessive it should be fine and if you have kids with this woman it's a must to stay in contact with your inlaws. Go out to eat every now and then but don't go over to their house all the time. If your ex is around I wouldn't stay too long unless you two are going to remain in contact with eachother and stay friends which is a good thing most of the time depending on the reason for divorce.
2006-08-24 18:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, think long and hard...and be sure you're not actually trying to win her back through them. Then...if you conclude that you really ARE closer to them...there's nothing wrong with remaining close to them as long as you can allow your ex-wife to live her life without interfering. You'll have to take cue's from her parents too. They may not want to continue the relationship.
2006-08-24 18:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test the waters. Call and chat. You'll know whether or not it's okay with them after about 2 min. into the conversation. It might work out that you can still have a relationship with them, especially if kids are involved. But, if it ended due to you doing something to their daughter, I wouldn't bet on it.
2006-08-24 18:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to stay in contact with you, that's fine. Don't do it just because you want your wife back. But remember, blood is thicker than water, and she'll always come before you in there eyes.
2006-08-24 18:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by tikitiki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately contact them and see how they feel about it first. It may cross comfort line zones with them.
I would then talk to your ex about it.
I think as long as all parties are comfortable, it would be great!
2006-08-24 18:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Jose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and ask if it is alright. If you maintain a relationship with them, be sure to stay out of your x-wife's business.
2006-08-24 18:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great guy ...
Keep the contact. You are divorcing her, not them.
2006-08-24 18:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact with in-laws would be like contact with your teammates
2006-08-24 18:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be creating problems with your ex in making her think you want them to choose sides.
2006-08-24 19:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋