My husband and I have been together for 6 years. Ive always knew that I was meant to be with him. I love him so much it consumes me. But he is sometimes disatisfied with his life and is unhappy because he feels he hasnt really lived his life. I know I was meant for him, but is it possible that you can be meant for someone who isnt meant for you? I have talked to him about it and he feels as well that we were meant to be together, but I just dont understand where these feelings would come from if we were truely meant to be. He has obsessive compulsive disorder and most of his life he has never been happy with anything in his life once he gets what he wants... I have been very understanding forgiving and trying to do whats best for him to make him happy but sometimes it just doesnt seem like enough... We are opposite personalities but we fit together so well. Everyone tells him that he has a great life but he doesnt think so. So is it possible to be meant for someone who isnt for you?
2006-08-24 10:58:31 · 6 answers · asked by hearts_bleed_dark 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, to me, he is meant for you, and you are meant for him,its just that because of his illness, he truly doesnt understand that he was meant to be with you. you can also look at it this way, he was not meant to be with out you..
2006-08-24 11:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of like your husband in a way. I'm the type of person who's really not happy about most things. The only thing in life that really makes me happy is my mate, as a matter of fact, i love him to death. I understand what you mean when you say you were meant to be with your husband. I do question your husbands relationship with his parents because thats where most of my pain started. His input on life may have a lot to do with his childhood. Dont take it offensive, believe in him when he says he loves you.
2006-08-24 11:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Britt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible to be meant for someone, or for someone to be meant for you. It's possible to fall in love with a person who doesn't love you back, tho. I'm guessing, this is your first serious relationship? People who have been in love multiple times know that it's possible to be in love with different people at different times in their lives; you're only "meant" for each other for as long as you BOTH are willing to stay and work it out. If one person turns away, it may mean that the other person needs to find another love.
2006-08-24 11:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon, I walked in your shoes. My guy has been iun and out of my life sinse I was 14 and 18, 20,48. All the times together were magical and seemed like fate brought us together.
I have never been loved by anyone more than him......like your man is is OCD. I believe I become part of his obcession.
He is the dearest, sweetest man I have ever known. I adore him and loved him more than I can say, but he has more than OCD and as he aged things just got worse.
I had to learn that love doesn't equal being together.
I had to drive away from the man who I felt was my most precious soul mate. I am glad that my brief times with him, and I have learned that loveing doesn't mean two people need to have a life together. It was a tough lesson to learn.
If you need to discuss more with me, just send me an email.
2006-08-24 11:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never just ONE person for ONE other person in the world. Our personalities fit together in different ways. So you could be good with one guy, and you could be just as good with another guy, just in a different way.
Maybe if he's not feeling it... you need to understand that you deserve to be with someone who does. You might not realize how much pain this is causing you but being with someone who you know doesn't really want to be with you can majorly hurt you in the long run. You deserve better. Maybe you could go to counseling or try to reignite the passion in your marriage.
But if he's cheated on you... I say get outta there and find someone that is going to appreciate you as much as you appreciate them.
2006-08-24 11:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by whateva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone is "meant" for anyone...we meet people we connect well with, and we stay together as long as it's right and good for both people...when it's no longer right, then it's time to go separate ways...
Is your husband getting help/counseling for his OCD? Perhaps y'all should look at couples counseling and see if you can discover the root of his disatisfaction and what can be done to remedy it...
2006-08-24 11:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋