What do I do about my girlfriend age59 not interested in sex and afraid to take hormone pills?Has had cancerbf

Question

Been seeing her for 3 yrs.and does not have a sex drive and is not taking hormone meds.She has had previous cancer and through treatment is free from it.The reason she says that not taking hormone meds is the side effect of cancer.Any help what she can do or?Thanks for any info.

Answer 1

There is a supplement you can get at the drugstore called Estroven, that provides some natural alternatives for hormones. A woman recommended them to me, and I started them yesterday, no benefits as yet, but the box says it may take 30 days for full benefits to be realized.

Cristina Ferrare, formerly married to John DeLorean was on television a few years ago touting the benefits of testosterone vaginal suppositories for women, allegedly the dose was very small, but ramped up the libido. Have not seen anything of her in recent years, maybe she grew a beard and is incognito.

Also, lots and lots of foreplay and KY spray. Lots and lots of understanding. Massage oil, and massage might at least get her interested in the tactile, maybe an intro. Talk to her, and together come to some agreement about what would be a satisfactory solution for both of you.

Or, you can *take matters into your own hands* and leave her alone if that is her preference.

Answer 2

Sounds like she had a hormone dependent cancer - she should really stay away from atrificial hormones and strictly follow what the doctor says.

If she is not interested in sex then this is what it is. Of course a problem for you since you are obviously interested.

So I think you both need to become creative in how you are getting sex without her being involved. Or perhaps - you could try to go without sex like in the past years? Perhaps just cuddling with nothing else?

You could also check in with a sex/family counselor or psychologist specialized on this area. They sometimes have creative ideas to try and a lot of good experience.

Answer 3

Here is some info that might be helpful