Lets say you love someone so much and have been together quite awhile you are both the same sex, at the beginning of the relationship she admitted to dating you and how much she loved u. Then now she's sayin that you were never really dating you were just two friends who screwed around. How is a person supposed to deal with the fact that you still love this person but you know they were playin you it seemed, but you don't want to believe that. Damn love hurts especially when it's the same gender and it's frowned upon. How come you were once apparently dating, and couldn't stand to be without eachother, and now it's like you argue all the time, and it seems like there is all this anger. Yet in my heart I still love her, and prob always will, I know I need to move on but it's so hard especially seeing as we live together. Someone pls help me.
2006-08-24 10:42:47 · 16 answers · asked by sweetblue_cherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well it is true ppl change and love hurts. But the thing is that you cant do anything about it. Things changed and she doesnt really feel the same about you anymore. Probably she got bored or she found out it wasnt really what she was expecting. Now, you say you still love her but the game of love requires 2 to play and here one of the players decided it was game over. SO what are you left to do?. I think that you are already very hurt and what is better for you and for whatever you guys have together right now its to only accept that you did had great times and no matter what you are going to be there for each other. Dont let the "messing around" ruin the friendship. It might not always be the same again but try to analyze what went wrong and dont blame it on anyone just analyze realize take notes and give yourselves space to gain strength back and move on again. Each with sepearate lifes.. People change and some stuff can change other stuff alot. I Think you should give yourself space and go out and meet new ppl keep yourself occupied and try not to be alone all the time especially in these times you are broken hearted. YOU need to enjoy life and take only the positive learn from the negative tho because that is what makes you stronger. YOu are not going to die. Remmeber what does not kill you makes you stronger and yes if you really love someone you need to let them go if they never come back is because they were never yours but if they do it is because they were always yours.
much love and peace out
2006-08-24 10:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more you love someone the more you fight. because you have both trust each other so much. However when the other person rejects you and wants to make it seem like you were never happy or never together. Like you never ever had anything. Then that person never really loved you. I think for you, you need to get out of that situation. Kick her out or find another place to live. You cant really move on and do the things you want to do until you are strong and whole again. You just have to get up move on to bigger and better things. And then there will be a day when that other person will realize what they gave up. When that happens all you can say is SORRY you had your chance.
2006-08-24 10:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by amor2285 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, same sex or not... This is a risk you run when you fall for someone. Letting another person into your heart is a huge gamble - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. It takes time, but most people get over it, some more than once. You'll be over it too - meanwhile, you certainly need to re-think your living arrangements and move out. Reach out to your friends and family for help and support, keep busy; this is not the end of the world, you'll meet someone else, there are more fish in the sea.
2006-08-24 10:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to steel yourself and realize that the situation is over and move on...cherish the memory...straight couples go through breakups all the time too, it's not harder or easier for anyone emotionally...it HURTS to learn someone you really dig doesn't feel the same about you...
Don't let it jade you though...take the time you need to heal and then be open to other opportunities down the road...you will meet someone who will be honest with you...relationships should only last as long as they are good and right...frequently, that doesn't mean "forever"...
2006-08-24 10:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it all with the phrase, "If you love someone, set them free." You cannot make someone love you - no matter how hard you try or how much you want them. You have to just let them go. You may be lucky and have her return when she realizes what she is missing - but she may never come back. That is the chance you take when you love someone.
2006-08-24 10:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that saying is BS!
If you let it GO , then suck it up and move on!
Stop wasting time on both parts. Get on with you life and put it behind you.
If you let it GO- there was a reason right? Then why live with regret. Its not a corny "love' cliche.
2006-08-24 10:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is the hardest question of all. but there is no right or wrong answer. setting them free doesn't mean that you give them up or let them go, setting them free mean keeping him/her in your heart forever and moving on with your life. even if something bad happen today, he/she will still live in your heart.
2006-08-24 10:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
placing genuine love unfastened is a metaphor for trusting to the certainty of love. And definite, love could on no account be limited. How might you circulate approximately placing it unfastened? tell the article of your pastime to leave, hoping that his/her love for you is actual sufficient that he/she can return? placing love unfastened is basically giving the guy room to enhance and alter, to be, different than for the different, to exist one after the different from the confines, the smothering "oneness" it somewhat is regularly imposed. If it comes back...if the affection keeps to be, and the won reaches out, prefers to set aside self pursuit in choose of moments of "oneness"...then, love is actual.
2016-09-29 22:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more fish in the sea :)
"When u love someone u need to learn to let go"
2006-08-24 10:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set her free. if she comes back, you will know her feelings for you. If not, you will find many others in your life that will love you right, and treat you good!
2006-08-24 10:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋