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I am a concerned parent and I believe that my child has been communicating with some strange people on the internet. The only way I can stop anything from happening is reading thier email, but I cannot risk them knowing that I have changed their password or else their trust in us as parents will be lost. I want to him my child as I know they might be in danger- help pls!

2006-08-24 10:30:23 · 9 answers · asked by wnika 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I am not sure what you can do - why don't you forbid your child from using the computer unless yourself is present. That is a very scary thing when your child starts communicating with strangers - especially on the internet.

Talk to your child, and then put rules on the family computer - don't let your child have one in their room either. Good luck!

2006-08-24 10:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

First you have to lose that whole 'trust as a parent' routine. That is what got you in to this mess in the first place!! Your job as a parent is NOT to be a trusted friend, it is to be a protector and to educate them on how to be responsible adults.

My question is why does your child have an account that you don't have the password to? He is a CHILD and therefore incapable of making wise decisions, his brain doesn't work that way yet, he is biologically incapable of considering consequences and doesn't have enough life experience to keep himself safe.

Would you NOT take the car keys from a 7 year old because you might lose your 'trust as a parent'?? Sorry but this is common sense! Who is making the rules in your house, you or the kid? It seems to be the kid and if thats the case you lost this battle ages ago. You simply sit the kid down, say what is your password and you will not have secret online buddies, its just too dangerous. Be mad at me for it all you want but as long as its my job to protect you thats exactly what I plan to do, I'd rather have you safe and alive and mad at me than be your pal and find you dead in a ditch, and that is really what this comes down to, so make that choice. There are lots of programs designed for use by parents to help them protect their kids while online, use them. But more than that you have to quit trying to be a friend and start being the PARENT!!

2006-08-24 10:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0 0

This program is great, although you have to buy it. It will email you a report as often as you want. It shows you sites visited, conversations on IM, emails, passwords etc. Basically it records everything that everybody on the computer is doing.

I found out that my kids weren't doing what my imagination told me they must be doing.

I was able to get comfortable with just crusing through the reports without reading every single word that was said and didn't have to worry.

It's also great for catching cheating spouses!

Check out www.spectorsoft.com for more information.

2006-08-24 11:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 0 0

If you got SBC Global DSL, or something like by Yahoo!.. lol... Click tools and click Parental Controls.. If you don't, I would prefer trying to get the child away from the computer awhile like Family Time.. Don't make it boring.. Go somewhere like Incredible Pizza or get some of your child's friend so your child and their friends can hang out more often.. See! Your child can have fun and be entertained and it's Parent-Monitered!

2006-08-24 10:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Chamillitary Amberleé♥ 5 · 0 0

You cant look at their emails without a password that's the whole point of Internet security. I wouldn't get too worked up about it. If you child is not too naive then don't worry its prob js harmless chatting. As long as he/she doesn't give personal details out theres nothing to worry about. You can bar them from using various chatrooms using the internet content tools.

2006-08-24 10:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There is a little thing called sitting down and talking to the child. Explain how you feel and why you feel this way. Insure them you love him or her, and that you want to make sure they are safe. Tell them there are many people who are not who they say on the internet. You want them to have a private life , but yet you need to stay plugged in. Have the child open the mail and sit down together and view it.

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2016-04-28 13:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Are you for real? You take the computer away from junior, or tell him or her that you are now monitoring everything! Then, you follow through! I assume you are paying the mmonthly bill for the ISP, so YOU should be in control. Not your kid. And if the kid feels their privacy is at stake, then let THEM live elsewhere. C'mon here, get some backbone!

2006-08-24 10:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You can install a seamless, virtually undetectable little program called a "KEYLOGGER."

You can get the passwords from there and voila! You're in.

Good luck.

2006-08-24 10:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rob N 2 · 0 0

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