About 3 months ago me and her were really close, we really both liked each other. It was obvious. But she's only 13, and I had just turned 15. Well, people started talking about it, and she backed off. So about a week later, I asked her out, afraid of her backing off further, she said I Dont Know. I took it as a nice way of saying no, but didnt understand why she would say no, I mean, we were so close, more than friends. So she continued to back off, at that time she told her friends she might date me, that she just wanted to see if I could stick with her, cause i've had many girls. Well fast forward 3 months. Now she barely even talks to me, she seems to really like this other guy, and like I dont even exist anymore. I dont knowy why? I mean i didnt do anything to push her that far away. And now she is telling her friends she doestn like me at all, she just dont wanna hurt my feelings. Ok, heres where it gets confusing. Her and her mom are REALLY REALLY close, they tell each other everything. Well her mom likes me alot, she told me, that if she could pick anyone for her daughter to date, it would be me. But, she also said that her daughter was REALLY scared, because we were so close, and she is afraid that if we ever break up, it will totally ruin the friendship, which I can understand. But her mom said that if I really really like someone else, that i should move on, but if I really really like her daughter than i should continue to pursue her. I know her mom isnt lying to me, she would tell me straight up, if her daughter dont like me. Well heres the problem, I am so confused, i feel like I am putting this first priority in my life. Ahead of God, I dont want to, but I really really have strong feelings for this girl, and i just cant let her go. My question is, what should i do? I mean what do you think? Do you think she likes me, or she just dont wanna hurt my feelings, or what? I mean one day it will seem like she totally wants to takl to me, the next, she wont even reply to my email, that she sent the day before. .. Please tell me what you think she is doing, thinking about me, and what I should do if I have any chance left with her, I know I sound crazy, but , I really really care for her, more than anyone I've ever known.
2006-08-24 09:58:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dude, you need to relax and stop over thinking this. Talk to her and tell her that she needs to decide what she wants because you know you want to be with her. But that you don't want to keep feeling like your forcing yourself on her or into a relationship with her if that isn't what she wants. You just want honesty between the two of you and for the both of you to clear about what is going on.
2006-08-24 10:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this girl is way too young anyway, she probably does not even know how she feels, she is just going through a very emotional time in her growning up, her hormones will be starting to flare up, one day she will think she knows what she wants, the next day she will be confused again, that's the problem with a girl this young age, I know by what you are saying you have strong feelings for her, i believe you 100% its plainly obvious to everyone to see, but, if I were you, I would back off and let her do a bit of growing up and maturing a little bit, when she is 14 or 15 she may just want to know you then, i am not saying anything bad about here either, not at all, I am saying she needs time and space to do some growing, she will change, she may not want you even then though, if that's the case, there is absolutely nothing you can do, so sorry, but ur very young yourself anyway, ur only 15, give it time honey, don't rush things, life is way too short. Take it one step at a time.
good luck with it all and I hope things work out for you which ever way it turns out
2006-08-24 17:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by hotbabes_tracey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww thats the sweetest thing ever. No you don't sound crazy. I think that she is just afaird of you two becoming close and the breaking up part. But don't give up . I know that she likes u from wat I have read and she is jus maybe afaird of something you might want to sit wit her and ask her honetly. Talk wit her ask her questions make her laugh and be friends agian and don't push things fastly just take it solw try to built something from there again. Tell her how much you like her
here is something
[ I really like you and can not get you off my mind and I was hoping that you would get back wit me if want as friends. I am sorry for wathever I did that pushed you away from me. I really like to contuine being good friends as we were before I totally miss you your the most beautiful girl I ever seen I miss being your friend]
Thats just an ideas of what you should say
I hope I helped
And I hope one day you get her back
Am sure you will
2006-08-24 17:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Krazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. First if you like her THAT much then you should let her know. Then tell her (and really mean it) that you think she is scared because you have dated alot of other girls. Finally, let her know that you simply want to be around her and BE FRIENDS. Leave the physical stuff until later...I know it is hard - but if you like her that much, if you are just tight friends there is no risk to losing each other, just risk that you BOTH might fall in love over the years.
2006-08-24 17:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Russ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space, you guys are young...she may come around one day when you all are older, maybe even in your 20's...who knows. The thing to remember is that friendships are worth more than any other kind of relationship. If you can't be freinds before lovers, then there isn't going to ever be anything there anyway!
2006-08-24 17:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by whoanelly00 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. 15 is way to young be thinking so serious about a 13 year old girl. Age gap will become more important when you turn 16 and 17. Find a girl your own age.
2006-08-24 17:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear dear young friend, firstly you have to be clear about one thing. you come first your feelings for someone else come first..yGOD does not come first second or ven a close third. Your life is for you to lead, god has nothing whatsoever to do with your life or of this girl that you love, Love her and love yourself, love your family and love your friends but for goodness sake forget this nonsense of loving a 2000 year old dead person
2006-08-24 17:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get this hint leave her alone and any other12-13-14-15- alone don`t ask for trouble take a cold bath or play some sport say no to aids and stds
2006-08-24 17:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by giggi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the looks of your long explanation, I'd say she's clueless and you're trying to logically assume that she isn't clueless.
2006-08-24 17:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋