Do you think it's possible for someone to love you if they say that they are embarassed of you and that you stand for everything that they despise? I had this happen and he says despite what he said, he loves me. I don't think it's possible, I think he's been lying to me for four years. You cannot love someone if you are embarassed of them.
2006-08-24 09:56:12 · 21 answers · asked by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We all have a few things we hate about our partners but not to the point you despite them. If you can't love someone for who they are then you don't love them to begin with.
First i think this guy at some point loved you and now his tired of the routine and is trying to hurt you so you could be the one to walk away and he doesn't have to. How can you say your embarrassed of someone you've been with for 4 yrs i just don't get it....why even be with them.
Now you need to step up and say if i embarrass you and you despite me then why are you with me? If he can't answer that then you need to cut him from your life. If he replies with answer what ever it maybe then his the one with the problem and not you.
I hate to tell you this but i think that he has someone else in the picture and you just don't want to accept it. You decided if you want to be happy or unhappy. Nobody is going to take care of you if you can't do it for yourself. Let him go and live a happier life. It hurts when you love someone but it hurts more staying in the situation.
2006-08-24 10:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u say embarrased with love theres no need for to love someone u love thier whole no ?'s left 4 embarrasement u nurture 1 another together thru anytact,but for the only room i can not help but see room 4 the word (embarrased).....well if was so twisted enough that one pretty much will or has sexually encountered all you know where one cant help but feel this way but then that goes in to pride an what not.love will come an go an the hearts can't hurt without the minds consent.
2006-08-24 17:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by bogusmebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no get out of the relationship as fast as possible a guy who is ashamed of you well hes not worthty and as he said, you stand for every thing he despise, does that not tell you he hates you, four years of your beautiful life move on cause unless you do you are not going to find that some one who will love you and show you off to the world, act now time waits for no one
2006-08-24 17:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by cluelesskat maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for someone to love you and be embarrassed by you. In my case, I was embarrassed of my boyfriend but I loved him so much. The truth is, I wans't really embarrassed of him, but worried about what everyone else had to say about him. He's not embarrasssing in any way, he's just completely opposite of me and that scared me. Once I was able to recognize that I wasn't embarrassed of him, but rather insecure about my own fears, I was able to let those feelings of embarrassment go away. I love my boyfriend more than life and itself and we're getting engaged..so yes I do think it's possible
2006-08-24 17:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by hunnykal24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but it depends on the reason that he is embarrassed of you. For example, my wife (my ex-girlfriend) sometimes says that she is embarrassed of me because I am smoking or because I got too fat! She has said that since she was my girlfriend and I know that she tries to correct me . She wants me to change my bad habits like eating too much, smoking, etc. I think you should ask your friend why he is embarrassed of you, if it is something about your behavior that you can change it, he may wants you to change, but if it something like a big nose, being too tall or short etc., then it means that he really doesn't love you.
2006-08-24 17:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Admiredhope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not possible...i truely believe this with my heart....i had a boyfriend about 7 or 8 years ago and we got along good...we use to go to the movies, out to eat, Wal-Mart, everything...then his brother-in-law (who is NOT small himself) told him that i was too big for him...he told him it's okay for the guy to be bigger than the girl but not the girl bigger than the guy...well i found this out because he never wanted to do anything anymore but stay at my parents and watch movies and stuff....i finally found out why and dumped him...he was ashamed of me because of what his brother-in-law had said...well he later wanted to get back together...i did try it...but i ended up breaking up with him again because i just didn't feel the same about him anymore and i felt like everywhere we went he was ashamed of me....so no i DO NOT think it's possible for someone to love you if they say that....
2006-08-24 16:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by monkeytail_77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you can't both love someone and be embarrassed of them. Those two things are opposites and if two people remain in a relationship where that exists, things will eventually blow up.
2006-08-24 16:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very true in my opinion!
I think if a guy is "IN LOVE" with you, he should feel to show you off, be proud of who you are. Brag that your beautiful...at least to your face and then SHOW how he feels about you!
Sounds like he doesn't give a rats BUTT about you and Im very sorry to hear that!
Id lose him sweety!
2006-08-24 16:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that doesnt sound like true love. If he honestly loved you, he would love your flaws too! That is a lot of time you spent together, make sure it is going somewhere.
2006-08-24 16:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by CSI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, sounds like he has other motives in mind for being with you....don't stay around and loose another 4 years!
2006-08-24 16:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by whoanelly00 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋