There is this guy that has been expressing interest in me - he said he is separated so I followed him and watched his house and saw very clearly his wife and kids. Is that bad to follow him - I don't want to be a stalker however, I needed some answers and I had to do what I had to do - any opinions................
2006-08-24 09:36:10 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can answer this. I dated a guy who said he was seperated. THis went on for 3 years. He was still living with his wife. He wanted to date me and still be married to her. I never talked to her but I did go see where she worked and was face to face with her at the clothing store. I never spoke to her. He said he didnt want to leave her. I waited 3 years for him too. It is ok if you check out what someone says. If you feel bad about knowing someone it will not get easier. Did they look happy him and his kids? Think about it. Why would he want to leave his family? Just tell him you want to move on. YOu will always come last in his life. Believe me that guy I knew always made me wait til last. It hurts. YOu might love somebody but that doesnt mean they have a right to keep hurting you. Good Luck
2006-08-24 09:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by cottoncandysky40 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. Sounds like you didn't believe he was being honest with you. Now you know. But following someone on an ongoing basis is totally out of order. If you have to follow someone, then you surely don't need them.
2006-08-24 16:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you should stop stalking this man because it's not an attractive quality:( But since you done followed him already and have seen with your own eyes that he a liar ask yourself if you really want to be around him, seeing as you know he's a d*ck. But if that's your thing more power to you.
2006-08-24 16:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by shnooks_6002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did right. There are alot of women out there that are fooled by these types of men. Just think if you didn't and ended up getting with him and getting pregnant or something. Just make sure he's really divorced and was just visiting his children. You may want to ask the woman. I would. I would tell her all about it. If they wasn't divorced, you would be doing her a favor. I would want to know if my husband was doing that behind my back.
2006-08-24 16:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Xena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, hmm. I always think if a man is separated then ask your self a million questions, would he do that to you. Secondly, if he lies at the begining the nhe is liar. Thirdly, of course he'll never leave his children behind, and fourthly, he is gonna be living in 2 different places at the same time. then... i gtg.
2006-08-24 17:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by roadrunner_gt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, Im saying this in the gentlest of tones:
Do Not Follow People
It is illegal in most places, plus there was obviously something initially that clued you into the fact that this guy wasnt telling the whole truth. Next time, trust that instinct and go with that instead. It usually tells the truth.
2006-08-24 16:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by tish 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I have to stoop to following someone cuz I doubt them that badly, there is no need to be with him. I would end it right then and there. Don't need to put yourself through all that mental stress. Better to find a new guy.
2006-08-24 17:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't. It almost sounds like you are looking for justification since you have obviously "done the deed". The fact that you even thought about following him should have told you plenty. Girl leave that man alone and find someone else.
2006-08-24 16:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by buttafli 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How friendly are you? Friendly enough to express this doubt ....not the bit that you followed him......but the feeling you have had a friend hurt by believing or some such.......read his body language in the response.
2006-08-24 16:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, following him is definitely not cool but you had you insticts and were right about them. FYI-if you have doubts you are probably right. Stick to it, w/o stalking. How ar eyou going to tell him you found him out?????
2006-08-24 16:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mel7382 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋