My wife recently came across a photo of my first love (she never knew her) on the internet, and she is suddenly obsessed with her.
She wants details on everything about her now and then. Is she feeling insecure or what?
2006-08-24 09:26:01 · 13 answers · asked by Will D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FYI I don't personally have the photo, she found it on some reunion site or something.
2006-08-24 09:45:10 · update #1
Women wonder about all of your exes, especially your first love, she wants to make sure you didn't settle for her, and that you love her more then your first love, and if you talk some smack about your first love then that will help a bit.
2006-08-24 09:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by gumbowumbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the poster that said "Yes. don't go there. Buy her flowers, send cards, romance her. Don't talk about her - ever. you can't take the words back. Just let your wife know how glad you are you married HER!"
I am a woman, and I came across a photo of my husband's first girlfriend.
I felt weird about it.. Wondered if he loved her more than me (she broke it off with him because he traveled for work), etc. I asked him a million questions too and was obsessed over it. She was beautiful in the picture) Was I feeling insecure?
Completely. Why? He made the ultimate committment to me, marriage. Cause it's just a silly girl thing.
Of course I'm over it now, and it helped that he said all the right things.. That he married me, and not her, etc, and that I was wonderful and beautiful, and did all the things that the woman I quoted said.
Just show her that the focus is on HER, and not your ex.
It's really silly, I'll admit it now.
I know where she's at, but it IS silly. But see her side. Do YOU really want to think about the first person SHE slept with and loved? Nah, it's just kind of uncomfortable.
2006-08-24 16:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, welcome to my world :) Well, it was that way a bit ago. Now she has gotten over it. My ex got a myspace account and my current wife found her on it. All of a sudden I was inundated with questions and I was constantly being told how bad my ex looked (who is an unknown model, but my current wife is better in every way, fyi). After a while my wife finally just got over it. I think it is really hard when you are able to see people that used to be very important in your significant others life. But with everything just give it some time and understanding and it will go away. Tell your wife the truth, that you love her in a way that you never had with your ex, and that you only want her (your wife) in your life. It may take months for her to get over it, but what ever you do don't get mad at her. She is doing it because she loves you and seeing this other woman makes her feel bad. I hope that helped.
2006-08-24 16:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by scottie2h2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is feeling insecure. You should really do some great stuff like sending flowers (lots of them) and talking to her. You should answer her questions but remember that she is better in every way. If she says, "Did you love her?" You say, "I didn't even know what love was till I fell in love with you." If she askes, "Did you think she was pretty?" You say, "No woman is as beautiful in my eyes as you are." I hope you get the idea. She needs to know that you are as in love with her as you were in the beginning. This site is great to help a marriage if you will sit and read it. Start with the site tour and then go through the basic concepts. Your life will be made much easier if you can try to focus on these concepts. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi10_tour.html
Best wishes
2006-08-24 16:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, her insecurity is coming up to the forefront.
Please handle this well. Reassure her of her importance, beauty and love to you. You were a different person then and now since you have meet her you grown to know that she is the best and only one for you. Your first love is history for you and apologize for still having the picture and get rid of it.
Hopefully she not in your life now and how you handle this can make your marriage better or hurt it a great deal.
2006-08-24 16:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greater question may be.....are you giving her REASON to feel insecure?
How did that photo get on your computer?
Is it still there? Why? How did your wife know that was your ex?
GET THAT WOMAN THE HECK OUT OF YOUR LIFE (the other one, not your wife).
2006-08-24 16:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your first love still has a part of you, and your wife wants it back
2006-08-24 16:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by isis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. don't go there. Buy her flowers, send cards, romance her. Don't talk about her - ever. you can't take the words back. Just let your wife know how glad you are you married HER!
Good luck.
Been there.
2006-08-24 16:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Kare♥Bear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why do you keep a pic of ur first love on the internet. you shouldn't even have those pics anymore. you are making ur wife feel jeaulous, and probably insecure.some things you keep to yourself forever. and that pic was one of them.
2006-08-24 16:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by la nena loca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she just want to if she is better then her and if you still have feeling for her.that's all just tell her what she want and ever would be ok
2006-08-24 16:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by brentandcrystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋