Is my husband gay?

Question

He wants me to use a strap-on on him???????????????

He says he is not and it is supposed to feel good. WTF!?!

Answer 1

Nope, that doesn't mean he is gay. It is just sex play with you. If he wanted a guy to do him then he would be gay but it doesn't sound like he is interested in a guy, just experimenting with you.

Answer 2

he could be gay, an experimenter, or he is finally the first guy who is sharing his inner thoughts about wanting to try something new. i hope the strap on does not open the door to his homosexuality. he could be living a DOUBLE-life, he is the undercover brother. everyone is coming out in the 21rst century. in the black and latino culture, men would say he is gay because they would not ask for a strap-on unless they are gay and is trying to tell you in so many ways. get tested for STDs. i am so sorry.

Answer 3

No, he's not gay, he just wants to try out new stuff with you. A lot of guys like anal stimulation, he's probably stimulated himself there and wonders: a) how much better it would be if YOU were the one doing it, and b) what it feels like to be really filled up by his lover...again, that's YOU. Thoughtful guys who want to please their wives and care about their wife's enjoyment like to watch the expressions on their faces as they make love. Penetrating you is a power trip for us, as we can make you feel the way nobody else can. While we love the feeling for us, we also love to watch you c*m. And we wonder what it would feel like to be on the receiving end of a big one.

My wife and I have been married over 25 years, and adding anal play for me has opened up a whole new experience. I bought a Feeldoe® (a uniquely designed double-dildo) a few months back, and we've tried it several times. She was reluctant at first, but when I inserted one end in her, then straddled her and lowered myself onto the Feeldoe®, she saw how much I enjoyed it and she could feel every move inside her too. It is really something.

Join the Feeldoe group in Yahoo Groups and read about my experiences and many other very hetero couples. Be open, let him know your concerns, but try it and see what it does for you sex life. If you don't like it after a couple of times, you'll know that you at least gave it a go for your man.

Answer 4

NO HE ISN'T GAY! Anal sex stimulates you the prostate in men. It does feel very good (why do you think gay guys do it). It can actually allow them to experience an orgasm that is close to what women experience and completely different than what they are used to. Relax, open your mind, he will feel great and it has nothing to do with being gay. I'll bet your husband likes bj's too....do you think that makes him gay because gay men like that too....no of course you don't, you think it makes him feel good and thats the end of it, this is exactly the same thing. Its a sexual act, it feels great to them being gay is a way of life, it would mean he is attracted to men, and that would exclude you but he doesn't want a man he wants anal sex with you. Get yourself some great lube and enjoy how great you can make him feel, you will be amazed.

Answer 5

Prostate stimulation is really a wonderful thing. Also it might depend on what kind of strap on he wants you to use. If he wants one that looks exactly like a real male penis then it is highly likely that he is in the closet. But they do sell other types of strap ons that aren't penis-like in their appearance. I can say that stimulating the prostate is really a joyful experience and that is what he really wants in the end.

Answer 6

Well, ask him if he's done this before and with whom! Is this completely out of the blue for the two of you? Personally, I'd be concerned because the majority of men are pretty darn nervous in that area. They normally don't even want the perception that they would enjoy something like that. I'd ask a few more questions, squint my eyes at him a bit,,,,and then flash him a pic of gay porn and see what he does!! (Just kidding!) Hey, I don't know. If you love him go with the flow.

Answer 7

Sounds like maybe he is in the closet and is trying to hide it the best he can by having you use a strap on so maybe he feels he isnt gay if your a women not a man doing it.Maybe he doesnt even realize he is gay yet but give him time and im sure he will.If its something your not comfortable with doing tell him you dont like it .Say we can try somethinig else but thats something im not willing to do and if he is a understanding dude he wont push it with you anymore.And how does he know it feels good and how has he even heard such a thing i dont know many straight men who just let anybody shove something up there bum hole unless they were gay!Dont get me wrong im not saying just because he likes it means he is but yes it sure makes ya wonder!!Good luck and i hope everything works out for ya!

Answer 8

It is not necessarily gay. In fact, many many straight men enjoy this kind of stimulation although they probably wouldn't admit it. Maybe he wants you to be in control, or maybe he just wants to try something different. You should be a little more openminded, sexually, with your husband. It could be fun.

Answer 9

LOL my wife tried to con me into that several times. When have a very experimental and crazy sex life but for the first time I drew the line.

Maybe my wife is a closet male homosexual, I will be on the lookout.

Answer 10

No, he's not. There something inside a man's anus that makes stimulating it very pleasurable for them. I believe it might even be the protstate gland. I'm not sure. But it's very normal for them to like that kind of thing. Nothing more to it than that, honestly.