I asked women to stop telling every woman she has to get married or dump the guy. Some women were cool in their answers but others seem to think I am a jerk. I am NOT against marriage. I was only against telling women to make the guy marry you or dump him. Am I still wrong?
2006-08-24 09:23:41 · 17 answers · asked by jax0817 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no you are not wrong. If the guy is not ready to get married, then he's not ready. Some couples need to take there time, because people rush into marriage so fast anymore without even really knowing each other that its pointless to get married if they are just gonna turn around and get divorced. that woman that said every woman needs to get married is wrong.
2006-08-24 09:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by addybme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you seriously want the answer to your question? Do you want to know why women are driven to marriage? If so, you will find the answers on a CD set called Understanding Men/Celebrating Women. I think the company is called PAX. Either way you can look them up on the internet. I ordered the set a few months ago before I got married. Most of what we do is instinctual and women have a biological time clock that drives them. Boyfriends, it seems have an 'expiration date' and if the relationship is not progressing towards marriage then a woman is wasting her time and she is driven to find another potential mate. The CD set is really cool. Even my fiance, now husband, found the information relevent and interesting. It explains behavior of both men & women. You should find it very 'eye opening' and will have a greater understanding of the dynamics of the male/female relationship. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 17:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by godessathena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. No one should be forced into anything they are not ready to do. That is why so many marriage fail today because some women consistently try to change the men. they are dating with threats. If a man want to get married good for him, but if he doesn't then he shouldn't have to out of fear of being dump. I think any woman who does that is foolish and usually end up on divorce court.
2006-08-24 16:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In fact, nothing is wrong. I think marriage is - or should be - an outdated concept. Seeing that half of the people getting married are unhappy because of it makes me say that it is grossly outdated and not fitting to the requirements of our society.
I wish we could have something else to choose from: maybe a short term contract, lets say 5 yrs, renewable upon agreement? it is about time we take the shame and pain off divorce and allow people to live better.
2006-08-24 17:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys keep telling me that they want to live with a woman instead of marrying her. I would just be happy with that. Sometimes I can't get a second date. It depends on how much you love the guy to.. Is he special that you would be with him no matter what? That is the question
2006-08-24 16:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by cottoncandysky40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry u fill mis treated by women but heres how it goes we women do not like to be used we (for the most of us ) were raise with the dream to fall in love get married and float away on a cloud ha ha but i dont think anyone should give a man a marry but r elese card but if a women want to settle down andt he man dosent what elses can she do but move on good luck w/ you women troubles
2006-08-24 16:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If SHE wants marriage, and he is just leaving her in limbo, then YES, you are still wrong. Why should she stick around if they don't have the same long term goals?
If she DOESN'T want marriage, and isn't interested in it, then no, she she tell her girlfriends to back off, and that she's content with the way things are going.
2006-08-24 16:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're wrong, I'm married and if i could do it all over again....I would never get married..it's too much of a commitment to one person for the rest of your life! We are talking LIFE here people not just dating until you decide to move on....marriage is for LIFE......trust me do not get pushed into it.
2006-08-24 16:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the relationship - there are a lot of factors. Let each woman decide for herself, based on where she's at. But you have a right to your own opinion.
2006-08-24 16:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want burgers and someone keeps bring you salad.. at one point you have to say ENOUGH!
Get it?
If you want a burguer then you should go get a burguer instead of keep on waiting on the salad guy to change his mind.
Cappice?
2006-08-24 16:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋