My boyfriend and I have lived together since December 2005. I think it is a good choice for us personally because we share rent and bills. I think it is also ok to do this, because you get to know what you are getting into before marrying the person, and weeding out a lot of possibilities for divorce later down the road. What do you think? Honest answers!!
2006-08-24 09:23:22 · 35 answers · asked by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you are comfortable in the situation and where its heading , its totally fine for it is your decision. If anything would go wrong , it would be destined to go wrong regardless if you are married or not. Every type of relationship takes work.
I see all of the cliches, why buy the milk when the cow is free, but has anyone thought to say that men also put themselves in compromising positions when they move in with a girl before marriage. It should not be the woman that gets the flack.
Don't let any jaded people get in your way of your decisions. Remember its your life and your reality. Its is not the same for any 2 people in the world
Good Luck
2006-08-24 11:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by dramaqueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree in living with a person before getting married to them because then you can find out how things will work out in the long run. You also find out all their little quirks about them that drives you up the wall. Its a lot easier finding all that out before you get married. My boyfriend and I lived together for nine months then we split up for eight months because after a while we got on each others nerves but after those eight months we realized we wanted to be with each other and got back together. Now we have been married for almost three years and have a one year old. So yes I believe you should live with someone before you marry them.
2006-08-24 09:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. No better way to find out all the little things that might become huge problems down the road then to live with them first. The divorce rate is too high in this country. Better and cheaper to live with the person first and find out that you don't work rather than get married and have to go thru a divorce.
2006-08-24 09:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by sham.rock19 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my computer skills are not as well developed as I would like them to be so i am forced to give you an answer that lacks corroborating evidence.
Is the divorce rate among couples who have lived together prior to marriage significantly less than the divorce rate among couples who have not ? From the people I know who have done both - including myself-the answer is that living together didn't make any difference
Living together may as you say weed out the contenders from the pretenders but there are also many other ways to do that.
2006-08-24 09:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, there are benefits (all the ones you stated above). Another benefit is that you can go your separate ways without any messy divorce.
However, one of the drawbacks is that it can put off marriage. The urgency is not really there. You're already living together, with marrage not really being what it used to be, there really isn't any real reason to get married.
I think it's a matter of choice, I prefer the option to live with someone before considering marriage. But if marriage is the eventual goal, then it's something that needs to be visited or it may never happen.
2006-08-24 09:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by -J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both are in the right positon to be honest because you want to be together but not truly committed. The odds are extremely high that you will eventually break up.
Your really roommates with benefits. The myth that if you room together you'll see if you can be married is just that a myth; the odds of you staying together are slim.
Just the fact that you are in the position your in proves you both don't want marriage in the near future. The key is to not have kids so that when you do break up there won't be any baggage other than normally would occur.
2006-08-24 09:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've lived with my girlfriend for over a year now. I think it's a great idea because I've found that when you live with someone, you realize there's a lot of things that you may not like about them that you never would have known. If you get married, then realize that you hate this person, then you have to go through the big hassle of a divorce. Getting through the petty stuff before getting married will only make your relationship stronger.
2006-08-24 09:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think it is necessary to live with someone before marrying that person. There are times when people really change after you live together, things just aren't the same in the relationship and the 2 of you need to make sure that this does not happen in your relationship.
2006-08-24 09:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Andy's Mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years because he was content with just living together...
You have to decide when it is too long to just live together and by when should you be planning on getting married?
Other than that, yes, you do get to know how that person lives and takes care of themselves.
I would never do it again though. It turns out to be a my stuff-your stuff, sort of thing and that's not good either.
2006-08-24 09:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that works for you to see if you are going to be ok that is good. It worked for me. The problem that comes up the most with this is when it does not work and you have bought alot of things together. Avoid buying a house car or other things of the like in both your names. This way if you do split then you will not have these big things to argue about and may be easier to be friends after words.
2006-08-24 09:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋