and now we been togehter a total of 9 years. We had a baby two years ago and he still sometimes threatens me to leave becuse of it, but at the same time he has proposed to me and is planning our wedding with me. Is he just moving through the motions because thats what he thinks he is suppose to do? Or does he really want to marry me. I don't want to waste my parents money if he has no intention to ever let things go. The ring was a 1 carrot diamond and that to cost him alot of money. We go to couples counceling but he still always throws me cheating in my face every time we have a disagreement. Should I call things off?
2006-08-24 09:18:02 · 15 answers · asked by LOLITA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does love you, but it doesn't look like the wound has healed. You cheated, and you've stayed together with him. He took you back and is trying to work it out. I know it can be frustrating for you, but you did cheat. If he cheated on you 6 years ago with a best friend, how would you have handled it?
Granted he's kinda milking it, but that's his prerogative, as it would be yours if things where the other way around. Your counseling really needs focus and get to the root of this, or this will never be resolved. Hard to start a marriage when one of you is in pain.
2006-08-24 09:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it worth it? Its time for you to tell him that you've paid your punishment time and he is not to use that slam again. If your couples councilor has not told him that get a new one. Your mistake was six years ago that is enough time to be over it. You've also had a kid together that wipes the slate pretty clean.
It is difficult to put that one away but he's agreed to move on and get married. Its past time to get over that. On the other hand, why are you having a baby with a boyfriend? You have the sequence out of order.
2006-08-24 10:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see.... you have been together 9 years and have a two year old child, and he still hasn't married you.... I think his problem may be more than you cheating on him 6 years ago, what do you think?
2006-08-24 09:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by lovesyourdiamond 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't over the cheating and it will always be there. He will continue to throw it up in your face thru out the years. Cut him loose or be stuck in a negative marriage.
2006-08-24 09:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call off the wedding and find another that will love you and not keep stabbing you.
You cheated on him most don't forgive cheaters or ever forget.
2006-08-24 09:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he will never get over it. you lose a lot of trust and respect for a cheater. i think you should break it off so he doesnt have to worry about you sleeping around on him again. once a cheater always a cheater
2006-08-24 10:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by buckhunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasn't let it go yet, he never will
you need to look at yourself and see if you want to continue to have this sitting in your lap for the rest of your relationship because it doesn't look like he is planning to stop
2006-08-24 09:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wouldn't have been a whore you wouldn't be having these problems now would you ???
He's stupid for still wanting to marry you !!! HE should call it off !!
2006-08-24 09:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by gozedown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was six years ago? He needs to decide if he can get past it or not. And very soon.
2006-08-24 09:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he really loves you but his heart is still hurting. Best of luck
2006-08-24 09:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋