I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BF FOR 3YRS AND NOW HE WANTS TO MOVE OUT OF STATE FOR A BETTER JOB. WE ARE NOT MARRIED AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I REALLY LOVE HIM AND I THINK THAT IF HE WOULD MARRY ME I WOULDNT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MOVING WITH HIM. AS OF NOW WE LIVE TOGETHER AND HE TAKES CARE OF ME AND MY 3 KIDS. I WANT A RING ON MY FINGER B4 I THINK ABOUT LEAVING THIS STATE. ALL MY FAMILY LIVE HERE, I WOULD BE LEAVING ALL MY FAMILY. WHAT SHOULD I DO?? SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT I WANT HIM TO PUT A RING ON MY FINGER?
2006-08-24 09:17:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him that is your responsability to take care of yoru kids and that you cannot gamble with the stability that you have. Tell him that you have a lot at stake and that without a commitment you are unable to move.
You have to be honest. You cannot lose the little that youhave and live it all behind and risk that he change his mind later.
Good luck
2006-08-24 09:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We.. of course this is a huge step for you, its like your starting your life all over again, new city = new life, but if he is already with you for 3 year and supports ur children then its a big thing already, he is in a way your husband.
Of course the ring mean a lot its you and him united as one family, but trust me the ring doesnt count at all, if the relationship inside your home is close, secure and safe then that means you can be with him even without a ring. But if you have a feeling that your worries will behidn if you have that ring, then just sit down and have a romatic dinner and be streight up, tell him in more lovely way like. I love u and appreciate everthing u already dont for me and my family, and i would love to go wih u, but u have to understand that you just my bf, and not i'm not sure if something will go wrong there i will be able to make another step and move back where my family is closer. I would really apreciate if we can take our relationship to another level above juts bf&gf....more like husband and wife
2006-08-24 18:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by daysofmylife1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be completely honest with him and yourself. Don't settle and just move with your boyfriend out of state and away from all your family if he is not willing to make a higher commitment. Just let him know, that you don't feel comfortable leaving the state and your whole family if you're not married. If he loves you that much he shouldn't get offended. Good Luck :)
2006-08-24 16:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that would be nice but it doesn't matter if you have the ring on your finger or not it sound like you are not sure about your relationship i would stay put in til your boyfriend got his job and a place to live then send for you to be on the safe side because you never know what could happen on the road its better to be safe then stuck some were with 3 kids and crying and no were to go.
2006-08-24 17:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what you want then yes its your life honey and if that makes you feel secure then i would tell him just that!If your willing to leave your family behind and move the least he can do is marry you to show you he loves you and make you feel secured!!If he doesnt want to i dont think i would make such a bold as to move out of state,but thats up to you!I just would tell him straight up dont hide how you feel or you may regret it in the long run good luck!
2006-08-24 16:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can we, strangers who've never met either of you, advise as to IF you two should marry? It's your life. If you don't want to move unless you two get married, then tell him that. But, since he hasn't asked, and has lived there for 3 years, be prepared to have him decide to go without you.
2006-08-24 16:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, tell him straight up you need a commitment not only for your sake but for that of your kids. After three years he should know that he either is planning on marrying you and will do it, or he never will marry you and you should just stay put.
2006-08-24 16:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that is what you want in order to move with him, then you need to tell him that. Don't settle if that is really what you want and need.
2006-08-24 16:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by btdt65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and see how he feels about you moving with him. Has he even mentioned that?
2006-08-24 19:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well idk ....if u love hm does hem and the kids get along?who knos he might surprise u and already have that in mind i would wait and c what happens and live life to the fullest and start new adventures
2006-08-24 16:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by gus gus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋