im going to marry a man who is going into the army i want someone who is in the military or know about itshelp

Question

i am 17, my parents are going to kick me out my next birthday which is next may and im going to move in with my 18 year old boyfriend and his mother and step dad. my bf is going to go into boot camp then training to become an MP *military police* and he wants me to become a housewife but im afraid that we might not come up with enough money to live in our own house and have pets and at least 2 kids, i want to know if i should just work at least a part time job until we have a child then stay home till the child goes to school then go back to work, will my bf's pay house us all or will it cut it into a tight budget? im worried that he wont get enough and im worried i wont beable to pay for our kid's schooling and i would love to buy my children toys and beable to play with them and our pets all day but if it means to be poor then i dont want it. so i need help he only wants me to get a job if im bored and want something to fill in my time. so i just want to know if its a good idea or no

Answer 1

well its me i gave you my answers and i hope they helped you out

Answer 2

My husband and I were both in the Navy when we met. Military life is hard on relationships, which is why we decided not to reinlist. The Army will take care of you but things will be very tight, even with just the two of you. I recommend you get a job. If not just for the money, than for something to do. Being a housewife can become very boring very fast, and that can lead to depression. Besides that it will be difficult to get into housing before you have children, so chances are you will have to get an apartment somewhere. My husband and I were both E-5's and we were just beginning to have some spending money after paying our rent. I know you don't want to hear that you are young and you shouldn't be in a rush, but just finacially speaking, it would probably be best if you took some time to get used to the military life before you had kids. It's hard enough adjusting to that without adjusting to being a wife and a mother all at once.

Answer 3

Honey, I can't get past the part about your parents are going to kick you out on your next birthday?
If you want to marry your BF, that's up to you. But, I would strongly suggest you start taking some college classes and wait to have children. Work part-time and go to school as much as you can. Tell your BF to take as many college classes as he can while he's in the military. You, most likely, can get grants or at least loans to help w/ the education. Then when you are ready to have children, you can have some money saved and have higher earning power with an education, so you will be able to not be on such a tight budget..
You may be alone for a long time if he gets deployed overseas.. So, develop a good support system. If you can live on post, it will save expenses and you can take advantage of the support system the Post will provide.


GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH..

Answer 4

Here's the thing. Guys like to feel they are protecting and taking care of girls. That can be nice for a while but it can also get you down because it means they don't listen.

If you don't have anything to do while he's in boot camp you'll go mad. So get a job, then you can pay a little rent and feel good about yourself. Save for the future if you can, but the main reason you should get a job is so you have somewhere to go in the morning and some self respect. Otherwise you're allowing your man and his family to support you. He wont like it, but you have to let him know you're not a doormat.

Is there any possibility you could get a place on your own? You have till May to find a job so you can support yourself and pay rent. It seems like a much better idea.

Answer 5

I am a stay home military wife, mother of 1. We are able to afford life because the military adjusts your bf's pay by giving him whats called a BHA, basic housing allowance, which is based on if you rent or own, and what local rates are, and takes into consideration his rank. Then if you are married to him, he will get an increase in pay for each dependant that he has. He will also get $ for food for himself. Depending on where he gets stationed (we got shipped to Germany) you will get COLA, or cost of living adjustment which is extra money to compensate for the higher costs of living. Then if he gets deployed he will get his pay tax free while deployed, plus hazardous duty/imminent danger pay in addition to his other monies. If you don't have children yet, work as much as you can. Being a stay home person gets really boring, and this way you can feel free to go shopping when you want without feeling like you are taking his money, or feeling like you two might be strapped for cash. So far, my husband has been in for 2 years, he joined after we were married. He is a PV2, currently deployed. We do not struggle financially, but I have had to learn how to avoid shopping all the time. I do take on odd jobs here and there just so I can have some extra moola once in a while, but we live a very comfortable life, and we don't feel like we deprive ourselves at all. It is very do-able. Good luck in your future!

Answer 6

Okay you have said what he wants, but what do YOU want? Can you honestly see yourself at the age of 18 stuck in a marriage with a man who is gone most of the time, raising a child (or two or three) essentially by yourself for the rest of your life? I've been in your position and let me tell you it was not fun. I thought my life was over at the age of 18 and felt marriage was my only option, 6 years later after the marriage fell apart I realized, life had just started. Think long and hard before jumping into anything, please. Nowadays, girls do not have to get married to be able to survive, you can get a job, put yourself through school and do something else besides being a wife or mother (not that those are not noble things, they are the most noble but get something for yourself before you commit to anyone, be it a husband or a child.

Answer 7

as a young adult a military wife isn't bad.

you will get housing or an allowabnce for housing

my ex was a housewife when I was in the army

life wasn't too bad and we had 2 kids

Answer 8

work untill you have your first child(make sure you have enough money saved up) than treturn to a part-time job wonce the child starts full scholl dyas( kindergarten is half day) that way you'll be able to spend time with your kid while it's home and you'll rake in some extra cash.

Answer 9

He'll make enough money in the Army to support you and a couple kids.

Answer 10

I had all the same worries... and you know what... just so long as you are good a budgeting... you will be fine... if you want sepecific answers... send me a message

Answer 11

get a job it helps i m 19 and have my own job and apartment with my g.f. take it from me get atleast a part time.