I have to speak up. Women are constantly giving other women advice to leave their boyfriend if he doesn't ask her to marry him by a certain time. Does every woman believe the only definition of a good relationship is one that leads to marriage? Even 23 year old women get this advice. What ever happened to "I don't need to get married to be happy." Where is Ms Independence?
2006-08-24 09:12:51 · 35 answers · asked by jax0817 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see your point. But, should men expect to get sex whenever they want it indefinitely, with no real commitment? And yes, a worthwhile exclusive relationship should eventually lead to marriage. Otherwise, your just wasting your time.
2006-08-24 09:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, let me tell you something.. NOT all women want to get married. If if that's what they want, then by all means, a good relationship can be one where the couple is loving and honest, and doesn't need marriage. That is completely fine, and many women are ok with it.
The point you're missing here is that many women DO want to get married. And when they make it clear to their boyfriends that is what they want, then there's nothing wrong with women encouraging their friends to leave their boyfriends if the boyfriend isn't willing to tie the knot.
You HAVE independence. So don't claim you don't. The point is, you have to find a women who wants the same thing as you do.
2006-08-24 09:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independence is fine, but it depends on your definition. Some women (and men) want marriage so they can work towards a goal and to settle into a comfortable life together. If you are so independent that you are going out without one another frequently, and not working for a common interest (ie: a home, children, nice things, etc.), you probably shouldn't be married.
I know several couples who are not married and still have all that. They are happy and respect one another.
It certainly depends on what is important to each individual.
2006-08-24 09:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, after investing 4, 5 years in a relationship with no ring is just not worth staying.
Biological clocks tick away and there is no time to race.
Men have the luxury of being called "stallions" , "Bachelors" , "priced singles" and women are simply called OLD MAIDS.
And why hoping for marriage and kids and staying and waiting forever when the other person is simply not ready in marriage and kids? What's the purpose?
I hope that I answer your question. Good luck
2006-08-24 09:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the women writing those questions want to get married - so they ask if they've waited too long.
The simple truth is, if a guy wants marriage, he will propose fast so that no other man can get to his woman, and because he wants to. If a man waits, it's always a sign that he doesn't think the woman he's dating is the one.
For some people, marriage is a huge goal in life. To each their own!
2006-08-24 09:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The biggest mistake women make is bringing it up all the time. That really pushes the guy away.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years. Yes, I want to marry him. However, I've shut up about it because I feel more secure now that's he's talked about it for the future. I'm not really in a big hurry and I'm 29. Most women my age are scrambling around, bitching because their man won't marry them. I can usually count the months, leading to his departure too.
2006-08-24 09:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your problem dude? I don't see anything wrong with that advice in some instances on here. Most of the questions have to do with DESPERATE situations. I've given some of that advice myself. If a girl wants to get married and a guy is holding her in limbo with no promise of ever doing so, SHE SHOULD DUMP HIM!!! Sleeping around and not getting married is for pansy men. Real men get married and support their wives and families. I am always straight forward with a woman at the start about the intentions of a relationship. I am dating with the possibility of marriage. I will not hold her in limbo if we get to the point where it is appropriate to ask. Chill!
2006-08-24 09:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is the point of dating and relationships maybe not in your teens but as you get into mid 20's u shud be thinking about searching for the right one instead of just dating around....women can be independent with the desire to get married someday...if you've been dating a guy for longer than a year its probably entered your mind a few times and as the months go by you wanna know if hes serious....i dont know very women who said they dont need to get married to be happy....marriage isint always happy...im a 21 year old whose been married for 2 years
guys shouldnt be pressured into popping the question but we need the hint that eventually thats your plan.
2006-08-24 09:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating you.
2006-08-24 09:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by kdj204 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First of all you have to look at the girl. Some girls practically worship their friends and will do anything they say while others have healthy friendships.
It's also up to you to be up front with her and say marriage isn't in the cards. It should be her choice to not be in a relationship that has no destination or point to it other than having a good time.
2006-08-24 09:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably out there being used and giving up hthe good time of her life to end up back out there searching for a husband. Some women want to get married and not give the milk up after a while for free!!!
2006-08-24 09:15:21 · answer #11 · answered by cindy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋