When a husband beats his wife, why does she stay?

Answer 1

she is scared, he threatens her, by saying if she leaves he will kill her or a family memeber, he scares her by telling her you leave ill hunt you down. or the man convinces them they will change yeah they change for the worse, They put the fear of god in them to were the women are weak and they know it. My mom was in a very abusive relationship until she got the courage to leave i was 11 years old when she meet this man and for 4 years of my life we lived in total hell. he brought her down phyiscally, emotionally, mentally and us and since i was maturing he did me sexually, its like they have control and they know they do so you give up or self esteem is shattered, they want you to feel miserable. they want control and they have it cause they are stronger, he drank alot and did drugs but it was no excuse, we are scared from it we have our problems me, my mom, and sister we dont trust alot of people, but it took 4 years of that to relize one night to pack in 30 minutes before he came home from work and leave state and never looked back. there is light at the end of a dark lonely tunnel you just have to get there. People say why dont they just leave we tried but he always found us and he would call and find number and ring the phone for hours or find us until we got the courage to leave state. we left our home we were born and raised but we left the bastard and i was happy.

Answer 2

Fear of the unknown. An abusive man has spent a very long time first isolating her, making sure she doesn't have friends or resources so she believes she is all alone in the world without anyone who cares or any way to get there or any money to survive on. He has convinced her that she isn't capable of making it without him that she is nothing....you hear that long enough and there is nothing and nobody else in your life you believe it eventually. So to her the idea of leaving is like jumping off a cliff when you have NO idea what is at the bottom. The situation she lives in is horrible, but she KNOWS it, and so far is surviving it, outside of that she doesn't know what will happen to her or how she would survive that...better the devil you know kind of thing. Also, after they do it these guys are very sweet for a while, they promise it will never happen again, they hate themselves for what they did they beg her for another chance...its a whole cycle. Often times she has grown up in an environment where things went this way too so she isn't even aware that this isn't the way every relationship is, thats very sad and hard to imagine but it is also very true. Often times there are children involved and he uses them too, it makes her more dependant on him if she left she would have to make sure they were ok and fed and in school, etc too also they often tell her if she leaves he will keep the kids and she would be abandoning them, since this guy controls EVERYTHING in her world she believes he also controls that and doesn't know she can take her children and leave. Imagine that you have no vehicle, no money, no family, no friends....now take your kids and your belongings and start walking..where are you going? what will you do when the baby needs a diaper or your child says mommy i'm hungry and you can't afford to feed him....do you stay and take a punch here and there or do you go? Where do you go? How do you get there? Thats why. He is most likely to actually kill her when she actually leaves and thats a fact. Yes there are womens shelters, many of them give you a place to stay for 30 days, ok start with nothing and nowhere to go. In that 30 short days, find a job that actually pays the bills, find a way to get there (not everyone lives in the city) and save the money for first and last months rent, security deposit and remember you have nothing to put it in it, you had to leave with whatever you could carry, some clothes thats about it. You don't own a plate or a fork let alone a bed or a crib. Yes shelters are great but 30 days just isn't enough time to build a life, and you have to do all this while someone is literally HUNTING you, because they do.

Answer 3

Woman like the bad boy but deep they hope he is the good Boy.
Honor bravery and respect and courage aint tattoos on arm,its the hand of a woman on that arm and love of a family in his heart that makes a man a man.I wrote a thing some time ago about Grit True Grit

Hard working ground standing family man with the love of a woman who can have anyman she turns a look too but she has only one man in her life who she knows she will never find again but can loose any moment to his stuborn bravery and honor and sense of right and wrong and will say whats right even when its wrong in the eyes of the gang starin at him ready to use any foece to get what they want done.True Grit is a man saying he will be there and you know when you walk away he will.

This may not explain why a woman stays with a man who beats her but if she reads this it will tell her what to look for in a man.

Answer 4

In most cases the wife is uneducated, unrelioable witness and traumatized to the point that her insecurites keep her hlding on with no sight of help on the way until disaster hits and that is why outreach programs are now educating wives that they do have rights and that there is help for the less unfortunate. In the State of Georgia, even if you don;t hit your wife, your cooked when the State takes over.

Answer 5

That's an easy one to answer........Girlfriend(s) have/has VERY low self esteem. She needs to now that she is beautifully & wonderfully made. Once again GOD is not the center of the marriage, someone lost focus. The word says," Husbands love your wife/wives as you love yourself." I want to see a male,that is what you are if you resort to hitting your spouse,that hits & beats himself. Basically when they were married they became one...he is just hitting himself in the face. Stupid.

Answer 6

Because she's terrified. For her life. For her kid's lives (if they have any, and most of them do). The biggest part of it is fear for their lives and the lives of their children. Abusers generally take everything away from the woman, making their women dependent on them and therefore believing that without her husband, she's got nothing. And simply because if you're told you're worthless over and over again, and there's nobody there to tell you and help you to believe otherwise (because the husband's cut you off from everything else but him), you eventually believe it. It becomes so ingrained in your head that you're worthless and nothing without him that it becomes who you are. But a HUGE part of it is fear.

Answer 7

scared maybe. She needs to go down to the court house and file a 50B this is a restraining order. He will be servered papers and he will have to leave he alone until they go to court. If the court finds that the complaint is for real then the judge can the srder him to stay away from her, no phone calls or anything for one year, if he violates the restraining order then he will be placed in jail.

Answer 8

Some stay because that's the sort of family they came from and they think that's how it is.

Some stay because they are too poor to leave.

Some stay because they are afraid of what he will do if they try to leave.

Some stay because they are in love and hope he'll change.

All of them need to head for the nearest women's shelter.

Answer 9

well i dont kno personaly...i watched that happen to my mom all the time when i was a little kid..i asked her y we couldnt leave..she said she loved him but ive learned from her mistakes...u could be so in love with someone and everything could b good but if they even have any desire to hit her i think they should think "well maybe he doesnt think the some thing" she might love him but he doesnt feel the same he wants power over her and thats not how its sposed to work ya kno...if that ever happens to me the a$$ is out even if i do love them and it might b hard but its for the best

Answer 10

For many reasons: she is afraid to go (think he will beat her more). she does not have place to go. she really have not idea what to do.sometimes she stay because still love him,or think he es going to change his behaviour (he never will); or simple because she has children with him.There are more motives.