i 'm new to a job and my supervisior is pretty cute, he is really nice to me, i like him a lot and i want to see if it's possible for us to have a relationship, but then again,he's married and he's a dad to a 1 year step daughter and has his own baby on the way, he's 20 and i'm 19, so the age is great ,i think he likes me , and i want to confront him but i dont know if i should , what should i do, please help!
2006-08-24 09:03:24 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you need our help or simply our approval? The supervisor is married with a child, please do not even think (anymore) about having a personal relationship with him! Perhaps you may have to change your work area or even your job, if you are as serious as I think you are.
Do not confront him, do not tell him, do not assume that his being nice to you is anything other than how he treats a staff member. Please do not make the mistake of approaching him. I wish you all the best and that , in time, you'll find someone whom you can be in a relationship with.
2006-08-24 09:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even go there, keep things Platonic. I know, I know, he's cute and you think he likes you. Think about the relationship after the newness wears off. Think about the stepdaughter who already has a relationship with this man. Think about the baby on the way who will have the best odds in adulthood if Mom and Dad stay together. Last but certainly not least, think about what qualities you would like in a man. Do you really want a relationship with a man who has a pregnant wife, a stepdaughter and is also your supervisor? It's a recipe for disaster. Lasting relationships require work. This one would require more work. How hard do you want to work? My advise is run far from this one and find someone who has less complications in his life. Oh! one more thing to think about. Do you really want a relationship with a man who would cheat on his pregnant wife?
Wish you the Best,
Puttinoutfires
2006-08-24 09:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get involved with a married man because it will affect more than just one person's life. If he will cheat on his wife that he vowed to love in sickness and in health then why would you be able to trust him to think that he wouldn't cheat on you when another hot younger girl comes his way and shows him interest. Then maybe he just wants to get laid because his wife is having terrible mood swings. Then you have your job to worry about if it didn't work out then things would be very awkward for you at work and he has the power to make things very difficult for you seeing as he is your boss. Then there is the possibility that he has no interest in you at all and if you say something you could end up looking like a total *** seeing as how you know he is married. Then what would that tell him about you. The bad outweighs the good in this situation. I think that you should just look for some one outside of the work place that is AVAILABLE, and keep your mind focused on your work and not the work out that you could give your boss.
2006-08-24 09:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries_r_cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you're about to make yourself feel like a worthless piece of trash for years to come over two HUGE no-nos:
(1) Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever get involved with someone who's already involved with someone else. You have chemistry with him. So what? What if he dumped his current wife, and child? What about a year from now when he's with you and someone ELSE has chemistry with him? Also, if he leaves his wife, most of his money's going to go to child maintenance on those babies.
(2) Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever get involved with anyone from work. Even if the first one isn't a factor, this would be. What do you do when it goes sour, and your boss is now your vindictive ex-boyfriend? You might lose your job, and you definitely lose your self-respect.
If it were an unattached man, I'd say see if you can hold out against it. And if not, then one of you needs to get another job so you can date without being in the office together. In the meantime, take it for what it is: an office crush. Enjoy it during the day, but DON'T take it to heart.
2006-08-24 09:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by emma_UK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work relationships can be very difficult and not adviseable.
Please stop with like and find someone esle. If this is not possible for you, find another job. You will save yourself alot of trouble especially since he's married. He married for a reason and you could just be a toy. That does not make anyone feel good about themselves.
2006-08-24 09:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the new job, but the supervisor is currently and for the reminder of his life off limits. He is married. And the way you think you like him is way more stronger for the love his wife and he have for one another. Don't interfer with their lives and the life of their child even if it is a step child. You could mess something up for the rest of their already happy lives. And then there is another baby on the way? Girl, please "do not" hurt that unsuspecting wife or those innocent children, nevertheless the happy father. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Please do yourself a favor and if you really like him you'll do him the favor or either switching jobs or having control of yourself and maintaining your relationship professionally.
2006-08-24 09:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you ask???...
You will do whatever you want, no matter what people say to you. You are too young to waste your life going into a very dangerous relationship. Do you want to marry him?...It is just a crush?...There are lots and lots of men in the world. Why to take a man away from his family?...Would you like that someone do the same to you?...You talk as a unstable minded person, but again, you are too young...and unstable. Leave that man and his family alone.
2006-08-24 09:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Alexira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to tear apart a family due to your selfishness, he's married and has 2 kids, how would you feel if that was your husband?And some little flossie came in and wrecked your marriage, he'll be yours in the bedroom but he wont leave his wife for you and if he does what makes you so special that you think he won't cheat on you to. Do the right thing find someone else.
2006-08-24 09:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by **Jellybean princess** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay away
keep it a work relationship
nothing else
hes married child on the way and a step daughter
also i wouldent confront him
he might be just flirting
seeing if he can still get a girls attention
i would just focus on your job and leave him to be in his little world thinking that everyone wants him
2006-08-24 09:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes married, dont you think thats enough of an answer?
The man is taken. Do yourself, him, his wife and babies a favor and back off. No flirting, strictly talking about business only and find a guy who is unattached to fling yourself at.
2006-08-24 09:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋