I've been w/ my boyfriend for 7 yrs. How do i go about telling him that i wan to get married already ?

Question

we have a 2 year old. he says he will always love. but he never mention anything about us moving in together or even getting married. and he is 7 years older than me ,and i'm only 25 years old . I love him , but i'm ready to leave him if he's not ready. please Help!!!!

Answer 1

Just come out and tell him. Stop playing and be for real.

Answer 2

This will be a toughie. What to say and how to say it isn't hard... trying to change the status quo after so long is the tough part.

You're going to have to tell him that you're interested in more. You'd like... fill in the blank. A commitment? Smaller bills through cohabitation? A partner to help you parent YOUR child? Tell him that at this time in your life, you need those things. Tell him that, if he's not interested to give you those things, fine, no problem, but he's going to need to let you go so you can find someone who WILL give you those things.

It will work best if you can keep yourself detached, calm, level-voiced through this conversation, regardless of how he acts. A side note: don't do anything at all to try to force him or manipulate him if he doesn't seem interested. That will backfire. If he says he wants to think about it, give him a time limit. Say, a week. If he asks why, be VERY nice when you explain that he's been thinking about it for seven years now.

And make him pay child maintenance, too. If he's not living with you, he should be paying to help out with the child he created! Good luck!

Answer 3

Move on. I was with someone 11 yrs older than me for 7-8 years. He's just trying to have his cake and eat it to. I finally left him and I am soooo much happier even though I'm alone. I finally realized that even if he did want to marry me I wouldn't want to marry him. If you break it off, make sure it's a clean break. At that age, if he's not ready, he never will be.
You seem like a caring person, you deserve much better.

Answer 4

You need to tell him that it is time. Say,"For the love of god, we have a child together. If you really want me, then it is time to make a commitment." I can relate for the most part a smy current husband and I had the same problem three years ago. We had been together for five years, so he just needed a kick in the pants to get into gear. Now we have been happily married for three years. It is best for your child to have bothe a married bother and father.

Answer 5

7 years is a long time.Think why is he waiting so long you already have a child together so what is stopping him from doing the right thing?
Maby he feels he's to old to settle down with a younger woman what ever the case you need to talk to him and tell him what you want out of life and if he doesn't then you tell him 7 years is to much time waisted and you two should move on.You should have a life.

Answer 6

You have been with him seven years so you should be comfortable discussing this with him. Ask him if he has any thoughts on marriage or if he just wants everything to be as it is.
How is your relationship with him while living apart? How often do you see one another? You need to be sure this is what you want. Love does NOT conquer all.

Your boyfriend may be afraid of commitment and if he is, you need to find out the reasons. . You may want to give him a time frame; such as two or three months, to let him ask you to marry him. If, after your time frame expires, he does not want to commit, you should probably move on. Please make sure he knows you want him to always be a part of your child's life.

Best wishes..

Answer 7

Do you want my honest opinion?

If he wanted to marry you, he already would have (or would have proposed.) ESPECIALLY since you already have a child together.

But, maybe I'm wrong, and if you think so, then sit down with him.
And tell him out right "I want to get married. What do you think?" If he dodges the question or makes excuses, then you have your answer. Move on.

Of course he'll always be the father of your baby, but you deserve to be in a relationship that is stable and loving.

Good luck

Answer 8

It goes like this. Baby, where is this relationship headed towards? Where do we go from here? I was thinking, we've been together a long time, what do you see for the future? Honey, will you marry me? I love you to pieces and would love to share your name. Do you see us being married in the future?
Just tell me already, are we ever gonna get married?

Answer 9

Let him know you are ready to move on. Growth is a part of living and you are in a rut. let him know you love him but if he isn't ready to make another step well then by GOD you are and we'll see you around! Life's too short to stand by the clock! He'll give in and if he doesn't than he was just using you for something!

Answer 10

Straight up and to the point!
Love is a committment to bring out the best in each other and your little one. Just by what you have said, I see a lack of love here.
You have invested alot of time and yourself into this relationship. It's time for a reward that will give you the security of his love that you deserve. I hope he sees it the same.
Otherwise, have a time of separation for him to think about his life without you. Tell him this straight up as well. Respect earned rightly goes along way for you and for him which will give you little one many benefits in time to come.
If you were good enough to give him yourself and have his child, then you are very good for him to marry you and take very good care of you and your little one.

Answer 11

has it ever come up? the subject of marriage, that is? if not, YOU bring it up. tell him that you want to be married to him. if he chooses to be a horse's @ss about it, then just move on. You yourself said you were ready to leave him if he's not ready. it's time. it has been seven years. it is time that he makes up his mind about you. if he seems reluctant, run the other way; he'll probably divorce you inside of a year...

be careful what you wish for. good luck and God Bless you