She left me for another man ,a fling i guess. Now she wants us to try again. Should i go for it? She works with the guy to .should i ask her to quit? How can i tell if she's lying.Come on you girls out there, give a good guy a helping hand with advice!!
2006-08-24 09:00:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't go there
she cheated on you once she's bound to do it again!!
2006-08-24 09:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, she has shown you her character BELIEVE IT!! What she did shows you WHO she is, her moral fiber her beliefs. What happens next time she 'thinks' something would be better? The best way to predict what someone will do in the future is to look at their behavior in the past. Is she claiming that she learned anything from this ordeal or is she just using you for the fall back guy because she thinks she can sucker you in to being her door mat again? The really important question is did you enjoy this ride so much the first time that you want to buy yourself another ticket for it? If you can't afford the emotional price you would pay if the same thing happened again then no there is no way you should take a chance. Even if you did could you REALLY care about her? Really trust her? Really invest yourself emotionally and completely in this relationship? If you can't then it will be part of a relationship anyway, not a real true love relationship and in that case you are wasting her time and yours. Good luck, don't get suckered here! Oh one more important point, did she LEAVE him because she realized its really you that she wants to be with OR did that relationship not work out and THEN she decided she wanted to be with you again? The answer to that really does tell you everything you need to know.
2006-08-24 16:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, she cheated and things didn't work out and now she wants to coma back? Gimme a break! You would be a fool for taking a cheater back, chances are that as soon as she finds someone else she will leave you out in the cold...again.
She is not worth yoru trust, Don't ask her to quit, let her work with the man that turn her down and let her simmer in guilt , shame and regret.
Do yourself a favor and tell her that you will NOT take her back and that you are enjoying your freedom and that you thank her for leaving you.
Good luck
2006-08-24 16:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't want a woman back, if she had already left me for somebody else. Does she want to come back because the new guy threw her out? Was she playing with the guy while she was still with you? Do you truly believe she wants to be with you, or just wants you as a place to live? Do you want to marry this woman? Unless you can trust her, you should leave things as they are. If she cheated once, cheating again is easier.
2006-08-24 17:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, she left you for other guy and then she and he didn't worked out and then she want you and her to worked it out??? . Also she working where that guy is working> and Tell her to find other job.. if she said no then not worth it because might not be happy with him see if you work out with you and then if not then she will rebound back to that guy.
I can't believe this she would do that to you and your baby? wow. I would say no just be friends and being there for your baby that all You can do and it better that way and make sure she not playing games putting the baby between you and her.... That not good.
2006-08-24 16:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she coming back? Because it didn't work with Mr. Fling? Are you just her safety net? Take the baby. Baby is worth 10 of the mom.
2006-08-24 16:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy. once a cheater always a cheater.
If you decide to work things out. what happens when someone else comes along and catches her eye. I would say don't give it another try.
2006-08-24 16:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No good can come of getting back together. Cut your losses and take care of your baby.
2006-08-24 16:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some peole may say do it for the baby ..... but what about you i say .... are you happy with her ???? the baby's important yeh... but if she left you for someone else .... thats a big thing ... if still love her and your sure that she wont do it again , the n you should and your baby will benifit from it having both parents around ... but you gotta think about your self i say forget her she left you ... what says she wont do it again ... everyone deserves someone nice and who loves them
2006-08-24 16:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by lady kia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has hurt you too much to forgive her, the worst thing is every time you banged her , you will thinking how the other guy bang her too, did he make her feels good or he is better than you in bed or he has a bigger dick than you and .......................... all these small things will drive you crazy. Dump her, let her learn a lesson in life.
2006-08-24 16:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would pay attention to the fact she didn't offer to quit already.
2006-08-24 16:04:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋