I have a female friend that I have feelings for as more than friends. Should I tell her how I feel and risk making the friendship awkard and wierd if she doesn't feel the same way? Or should I keep my feelings to myself and enjoy the great friendship that we have?
2006-08-24 09:00:24 · 30 answers · asked by xtremeranger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tough question - follow your heart - if you want more than perhaps mention it, has she given you signs? If she doesn't want that, if you two are truly friends, I don't think she'll feel awkward at all.
2006-08-24 09:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the friendship really that great? You have feelings for someone that you are not sure feels the same way. If you tell her you fear losing her. If you don't tell her, you will always feel the same way and wonder how she feels. Wouldn't it be better to let your feelings be known than to go the rest of you life wondering what would have happened if you told her?
I know this is hard and it seems easy for me to say; however, I have had a male friend that I've felt this way about for 30 years. I've asked once or twice how he feels and even though I know he loves me too, we have never become a couple. We have managed to remain FRIENDS with the awkardness. I've been there through all the girlfriends and his marriage and he's been there through all my boyfriends, etc. But it's still painful knowing that he's in a bad relationship, but is afraid of me because of our friendship and vice versa. Is this making sense to you.
I think you should be open with you feelings and if you lose the friendship, so be it. You don't need the complication in your life when you try to date other people, knowing you'd rather be with her...
2006-09-01 03:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with my best friend and I am sooooo glad I took that chance. Two kids , married , and still going strong after 20 years of knowing each other and 11 seriously dating.
You can't be much of a friend to her if you are bound to get jealous and maybe even really hurt when she dates someone. That will end the friendship down the road if these feelings keep up. Why don't try to be the guy in her life others are jealous of? If she doesn't feel the same way oh well at least you know now right?
2006-08-31 17:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by roxane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feeling what you do for your friend is OK. I guess you should risk telling her what you really feel about her and ask if you both can move further than just being friends. who knows may be she too is feeling teh same?? and as you said if you both are good friends, she should understand and it shudnt affect your friendship. Or else you can try involving some trusted common friend who is willing to let you know how ur 'friend' feels about you. I guess by doing so you shall be able to anticipate her response a bit.
Neways what i feel is that there is no alternative to speaking out ur heart n soul. its better to have said what u feel now than regret later for not saying what u shud have said.
take care and best of luck.
2006-08-31 20:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by RAKSHAS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right answer to this question.
If you have feelings for her, and suspect tthat she has feelings for you too, then I say go for it! Many relationships are successful because they started off as friendships first.
Since she is your friend, you obviously have things in common with her, and you get along with her well. This too, will help maintain a solid relationship.
If you do decide to ask her out, just make sure that you are willing to accept a few facts. if you do go out with her, and there's a break-up, it may (and most likely will) cause you two to have very awkward feelings for eachother.
Just make sure that this is the real deal, not just a hook up.
2006-08-31 19:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by NecropolisXR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should step forward and don't stand still if you feel that your next step to tell her what u really feel and be honest about it there is no harm in doing so because you'd be taking off the burden of suffering one sided love if she doesn't feel the same. plus if she feels the same then why should you lose the opportunity of a nice love relation with someone you know quite enough for she is ur friend before ur love. go for it whatever the results are
2006-08-31 12:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by torn mind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think deep down you would no if she likes you, if you don't do little things to see her reaction, if you still get the feeling that she only See's you as a friend I wouldn't risk losing what friendship you have.
2006-08-29 08:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by jazzie_jue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to her clearly may be she must be having the same feelings towards you and she is waiting for you to express, and also tell her that friendship is more important and will continue to be friends.
2006-08-31 18:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by NANI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Ask for her opinion. If she feels the same way then go ahead.If not, go on with just a friend thing.
2006-08-28 10:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel,but not in a way to frighten her.Explain to her what's in your heart maybe she would understand,but let her know if it will risk you'll friendship,then you will not pursue any relationship with her.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-01 04:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go for it. Sometimes friends make the best lovers and you never know she might feel the same. Me and my boyfriend were friends for 3 years before we got involved and we've been together for 4, so I say go for it!
2006-08-31 15:06:00 · answer #11 · answered by likeabreathoffreshair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋