Is the divorce system fair?

Question

I'm going through a divorce now and when fighting for my children in court it counted against me that i had worked to support my family as i was considered secondary carer of my children do you think this is fair and have you had similar experience

Not meaning to mislead anyone i have all but 1 of my kids back but they came back of there own choice but i think i might be 1 of the lucky ones most only see there kids alternate weekends or less to date i haven't seen my son who lives with his mother for 2 months

just to clarify my older children are my ex-wifes from a previous marriage and were not involved in divorce proceedings due to there ages

Answer 1

I do think the court system is often unfair to fathers and I have heard other men voice this complaint. There are some wonderful single dads out there doing a great job raising their children alone and they deserve respect. The system seems to often assume the mother is the more important parent and she seems to win more custody privileges.
I'm sorry that the deadbeat dads out there make it difficult for the good dads like yourself, and I'm hoping more judges will start awarding better custodial rights to the good guys.
I admire you for working and fighting for your children. No matter what the outcome it shows them how very much you love them.

Answer 2

Sadly, the courts system, particularly when it comes to divorce, do seem unfair.

What compounds matters is that it is up to judges to assess the worthiness of an individual parent's suitability in offering the child's best welfare. Of course, the child's best interest must be of the utmost consideration. Unfortunately, judges don't get to see the whole picture.

I would hazard a guess that you must have been doing something right if your older children have made the effort to come and see you since your marriage breakup ... either that, or they're adept at playing one parent against another, which children are apt to do. I am happy that your older children do visit you. The chances are that your younger children will follow suit, unless your ex-wife has learned to turn him/her against you. (I hope not.)

Answer 3

No. The divorce system is not fair in the U.S. nor could it ever be. The U.S. is based on statute law for the most part from the Magna Carta of England. Other countries are based on Napoleaonic Code. Statutes are up to interpretation, Napoleanic Code is more like everybody gets the same (like a traffic ticket). Spend the cash on a good divorce attorney- sell possessions if that is what it will take.

Answer 4

The court system is far from fair. Whomever has the most money gets the most justice in America. Do not sit back and feel like a victum, you read up on everything and try fro if all else fails a new judge. Or change attorneys. You will not see those attorneys again and they are just there to make money not do what is right. And you better belive what I am saying I am going through this now. It is also a man's world. Fight like a mAN.

Answer 5

Man should have exactly the same right as woman have after all you re child is a part of both of you , think the parents should be so clever to work problems out themselves for the best of the child (not the best for themselves...) divorce system seems to be more in favourite for the woman, but that's only based on old laws.. we need new laws and not only for divorce , I wish you all the best and wisdom to do the right thing

Answer 6

The divorce system is unfair, if the female doesn't work and there's kids then she gets everything. Once the CSA gets onto you then you haven't even got a good chance of starting over again as they take so much. And I bet your ex is getting legal aid whilst your struggling with your solicitors bills, making it hard to fight for what's rightfully yours! The only thing you'll probably get from the divorce is a massive amount of debt! So yes, it is all unfair!

Answer 7

I must agree with the court system always finding for the woman. I am female, true, but you guys do get the short end of the stick when it comes to divorces. I did not fight with my ex for anything, cause he was the one who worked and earned it all......I even share custody with him 50/50, although he only gets the kids every other weekend, he can get them whenever he wants.......to be honest, I even allowed his child support to be reduced, cause I figure, if he does his part and helps out with things he isn't required to do, then he is doing more than asked and besides, he's gotta live to right.........good luck to you

Answer 8

The divorce system is not fair. Favors the mother even when she is neglectful or downright unfit to raise children. Kids aren't always better off with their mom, but the courts seem to think they are. My brother has custody of his daughter, but the court doesn't even enforce her paying child support. So, no, in my opinion the divorce system is not fair.

Answer 9

the divorce system isnt fair at all! my uncle is going through sh*t right now b/c his wife was never able to hold a job and he was the primary provider so now the court is giving her a sh*tload of his money. they were together for 20 yrs and she has a history of depression and been on and off meds and now decides she doesnt want to be with him anymore and is trying to get as much money as she can. Plus she took the 16 yr old boy, not the 18 yr old one b/c she cant get any money for him!

Answer 10

No, its not, am i live in NZ, and the same thing happens over here, the Women always manged to get the kids and the dads have these restrictions, which are so stupid.... because you worked you were classed as the second care giver, how stupid, if you didn't work, then you would have been classed as a useless father, it seems that you cant win, good luck, don't give up, god bless