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Question

my ex wife is currently blocking me out of her life her words are "We will never be together again and it will take a long time for us to be friends again." But she accepts money from me every month because i don't want her or her kids to suffer especially her kids because they have done nothing wrong. i have tried to be nice throughout this horrible situation and now when she told me those words it hurt because we broke amicably and i was only asking her how she was and the reponse i got was sadly ridiculous.
she through everything into her job and started spending more and more time with this chef man she worked with and i got very jealous and this ultimately ruined the relationship our hearts were not in it. i will be totally honest and say i miss her madly but would never do anything to get back with because i know that is not what she wants.
what can i do? my family say divorce is the only answer. but i have no clue as to go about this so any help is welcome

Answer 1

Listen to your family they are telling you the right thing to do!And of course she will accept your money what ho wouldn't?As awful as it may sound your going to have to stop giving her money its over and those are her kids and her responsibility!Let her find out the hard way that she had a good man and a man willing to take care of her kids.I'm sure this chef dude wont give her a dime for those kids and she will really regret her mistakes.But as long as your giving her money she ain't going to realize nothing!Look in your phone book at home and find a good lawyer get divorced and find you another women who will love you back.Keep away from her and her kids cause the more your around them the more it hurts and the harder it is to get over them.You didn't choose this she did and she needs to suffer to some point for her actions.She is clearly telling you she will NEVER be with you again!I know you hate it for the kids but your gonna have to move on its the only logical choice.Because there more to being a father figure to those kids then just giving them money and that's all your pretty much doing.SO i wish ya the best and i hope you get the help you need good luck !

Answer 2

I always tell guys to never assume unless you have concrete evidence because that sends a signal to the woman that she isn't trustworthy and that might chase her away. From what I sense from your situation is one of two things that's happening with her and that's 1. You're jealousy state was so bad that she's had enough, or 2., She's so involved with the chef guy that she's using you as a scape goat. I would suggest trying to talk to her and get some understanding, if she isn't willing to work things out for the sake of the children, then 3 strikes she's out and go with you're family's advise. If the children are suffering that badly, maybe you should seek custody of them because you're already taking care of them and you really don't know where your hard earned money is going. I just saw something, did you say HER kids! disregard my last statement about custody because chefs make darn good money, let HIM FOOT THE BILL!!!!!! You put your money towards yourself and any of those single down to earth ladies out there.

Answer 3

You need to see a lawyer if you decide divorce is your best option (based on what you've said...it sounds like your family is right. The lawyer can best advise you on your legal rights and responsibilities. If the children are yours, then visitation and child support will be set up. If they are not yours, you may still be able to request seeing them as a step-parent, but would have no financial responsibility for them your your ex wife. Apparently she is moving on and not looking back...you should do the same. Before your next relationship, tho, learn to manage your jealousy...it's a vicious monster that will ruin any relationship (unless of course cheating really is going on)

Answer 4

Are you married, or divorced? You call her you ex wife, and then talk about divorce. I suggest that you let her find her own life. There is zero reason for you to give her money, unless the kids are your kids. The lady told you she doesn't want you- accept it, move on, and keep your money for yourself.

Answer 5

Well, you *are* divorced, aren't you? It's not clear from your question. Either way - if you guys are not working on getting back together, it's her right to choose not to "be friends" with you. Be there for the kids if they need you, but don't force yourself on her, and don't get dramatic. Eventually, the bitterness will wear off - hopefully, by that time you both have moved on, and don't need each other's company.

Answer 6

She has a new relatinship now (the chef man). Of course, if you hand her cash she is going to take it, she is not stupid, but that doesn;t mean that she wants to get back with you.

Divorce her and let the chef pay her bills. Spend money on yoruself and with someone that appretriates you.

Good luck

Answer 7

Listen find youreself a good lawyer get a quick divorce and move on life has alot better things out there waiting for you.Take Care.

Answer 8

Don't stay in anything that will continuously hurt you. Cut your losses. If the kids are not yours, then make her do it on her own. Maybe she then will see what she really has in life, and then maybe she will come back to you. What is meant to be will be. Time is all you can wait on.

Answer 9

god u seem a nice bloke just sit back and ride the situation out and in time u can be friends maybe, i personally hate mi ex, but i let him c the kids, aniway u seem nice and will eventually recover and get over the hartake gud luk

Answer 10

Id agree with your family if she doesn't want to be with you then you have to try and get on with your life.
It will get better in time.
If you want a divorce you would have to go and see a solicitor to arrange the paperwork its quite simple really.
Hope you work things out with what your going to do.